DH's depression. Stay and support him or leave?

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My marriage is not good and a couple of weeks ago I told DH I couldn't go on.

He told me he's struggling mentally and has been for years, he's not happy even though he should be, finds no joy in anything. He's been assessed as having severe depression.

He's got the ball rolling on therapy and getting help but I just don't know if it's too late for us. I've done a lot of work on myself and feel strong enough to leave and say it's too late. I'm worried that the depression is just one part of it and realistically even if he gets help it's not going to be a miracle cure for the relationship.

Anyone been in a similar situation?

thanks for this, I needed to have this message as my husband is going through this and Im at a loss on what to

Should I leave or should I stay?

My BF suffering with a major depressive disorder where he has had to have an inpatient/residential stay. He first told me about his depression early on in the relationship which I was fine with and he was taking meds at the time.

I think he stopped taking his meds because he said he was feeling relaxed and happy. He has always been very supportive and caring, even when I'm sick or feeling down.

But I've not had a message from him since 11 March, he apologised for his silence, acknowledged it was unfair on me but also admitted that it took him 4 days to send me a message.

I send him a couple of messages a week, to check that he's okay. I'm also honest about how I feel. There are days when I struggle but I'm focusing on living my own life.

My friends have advised to call it day and end the relationship, don't settle. My gut tells me it's wrong to do this. If I was sick, I wouldn't want to be dumped. But I'm not happy by his lack of communication and know how isolating depression can be. I'm just not sure what to do as recovery could take months and his silence while not intentional is hurtful.

@Janeale you should really start your own thread, but in answer to your question, you should leave.