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Sexy or just sleazy?

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Tuilpmouse · 27/11/2022 09:26

Ok... been messaging a guy for a couple of weeks or so on OLD. All good so far, and looking to meet next weekend.

Anyway, he hasn't included any full body shots in his profile, so I asked for one... And he sent one with him just in his Calvin Kleins! Have to admit, he looked pretty hot!

Anyway, i mentioned this to a friend, and she thought he was a sleazebag for sending that, and I should ditch and move on. Now I'm not sure so I thought I'd look for some other opinions. So, was his photo sexy or just sleazy?

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Tuilpmouse · 27/11/2022 17:20

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 27/11/2022 17:16

I'd do a reverse image search if I were you. Might not be him.

His face was the same as his other photos. Could be a deep fake theoretically but I don't think so.... and it's not like he was 20-something-underwear-model-hot... he's late 40s!

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Tuilpmouse · 27/11/2022 17:21

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 27/11/2022 17:16

I'd do a reverse image search if I were you. Might not be him.

But I did a reverse search anyway.... nothing.

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Tuilpmouse · 27/11/2022 17:22

wizzywig · 27/11/2022 14:04

Show us and we'll tell you if it's sleazy or sexy

Don't want to make you all jealous now! 😂

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Tuilpmouse · 27/11/2022 17:24

JayJayYoYo · 27/11/2022 10:29

If he is fit and his body is toned it’s fine. If he’s out of shape then he’s being a sexual predator and sleaze.

There's probably more truth to this than many of us would want to admit!

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Sandra1984 · 27/11/2022 19:48

OP you asked if sending a picture in underwear to a stranger is sexy or sleazy, some of us think it’s sleazy some not. If you’re so sure that there’s no sleaze and the guy is a gentleman with the most honest of intentions, the picture is hot and half of us are displaying very Victorian attitudes why did you ask the question in the first place?

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Tuilpmouse · 27/11/2022 20:45

Sandra1984 · 27/11/2022 19:48

OP you asked if sending a picture in underwear to a stranger is sexy or sleazy, some of us think it’s sleazy some not. If you’re so sure that there’s no sleaze and the guy is a gentleman with the most honest of intentions, the picture is hot and half of us are displaying very Victorian attitudes why did you ask the question in the first place?

I asked because my friend caught me
off balance with her reaction, so I wanted to test it on a wider audience. I did, and the responses convinced me that my initial instincts were right.

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Dacadactyl · 27/11/2022 20:47

I agree with your friend. Itd really put me off him, even if he was fit.

StarlightLady · 28/11/2022 02:43

You got exactly what you asked for. Whether it’s sexy or not is down to interpretation but that is a separate issue.

napody · 28/11/2022 08:40

Dacadactyl · 27/11/2022 20:47

I agree with your friend. Itd really put me off him, even if he was fit.

Maybe, but why is it her role to share that it would 'really put her off him'... she's not seeing him? Would it be appropriate for OP to start listing the off-putting traits of her partner or potential dates? This thread has proved its down to personal taste and how attracted you are to the guy (which is fine! Don't understand the posts implying that's somehow unacceptably discriminatory... dating IS discriminatory!). Irrelevant if she thinks she would like it or not.

ZaZathecat · 28/11/2022 09:25

I'm probably just old and out of touch, but neither my DH not any man I know in rl would assume a 'full body pic' meant underwear only (or less!)
So I would assume this guy is a) rather vain and overly proud of his buffness, and b) mainly interested in sex rather than a relationship.

Sandra1984 · 28/11/2022 09:45

ZaZathecat · 28/11/2022 09:25

I'm probably just old and out of touch, but neither my DH not any man I know in rl would assume a 'full body pic' meant underwear only (or less!)
So I would assume this guy is a) rather vain and overly proud of his buffness, and b) mainly interested in sex rather than a relationship.

Nice to hear some good ol common sense. Unfortunately women think a man sending you pictures in his underwear is cool or sexy, then you go into the forums and see the tons of threads of heartbroken women getting dumped by OLD guys because they just wanted a couple of months of no strings sex. It’s sad but the red flags where there, and this is a big fat one.

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