Sexy or just sleazy?

[Tuilpmouse]

Ok... been messaging a guy for a couple of weeks or so on OLD. All good so far, and looking to meet next weekend.

Anyway, he hasn't included any full body shots in his profile, so I asked for one... And he sent one with him just in his Calvin Kleins! Have to admit, he looked pretty hot!

Anyway, i mentioned this to a friend, and she thought he was a sleazebag for sending that, and I should ditch and move on. Now I'm not sure so I thought I'd look for some other opinions. So, was his photo sexy or just sleazy?

She asked for a full body picture, not a naked one or in his underwear. He could have sent her one of him at a wedding or practicing sports, but he didn’t do that. Another shag boy on OLD.

He’s looking for a shag, not a relationship.he’s sending that picture in his underwear to plenty of women. Not that there is anything wrong with that but….

I think most guys being asked for a full body shot would do a sexy one.

I think it’s fine as long as it’s not a dick pic.

Lots of OLD members will ask for full body pics as a way to make sure they’re not being catfished or deceived on any way and there are many examples of face and full body shots that make a person look completely different to their profile pic.

He sounds like he may be new to OLD.

You asked and you got.

Would this have bothered you if your friend hadn't made a negative comment? It doesn't sound like it given you say he's hot. Why let someone else's opinion change yours?

I do agree with the PPs that he is looking for sex but aren’t the majority?

Your flirting with a guy with the sole intent to date, you both like each other mutually, you ASKED to see his body and he responded by doing as you asked... how on earth is that sleezy?

I could say its shallow of you for asking but not sleezy of him for responding.

Ok, I've admittedly never done internet dating, but if I was asked for a full body shot, I'd assume that you were asking to see, y'know, my body.

Don't think he's sleazy, think he gave you exactly what you asked for!

I also dont understand why people think a photo means hes only looking for sex.

I was very body confident in my youth (and around many people as such) and had lots of photos in my underwear or hotpants/bikini top etc... that I would happily show to people (no different than being on the beach in swimwear) but I have never had a 1 night stand in my life, I have been with the same guy since 18 and Im as serious about relationships as they come.

'Nudity' and promiscuity are not automatically linked.

I’m a bit shocked reading this thread seeing female posters here exhibiting some pretty low standards with OLD guys, no wonder these shag boys get away with anything. If a new OLD potential date asks me for a full body picture I would never send him one of me in my underwear, unless of course I’m looking for a shag…

True but I have no idea why someone would ask for a full body shot in the first place? What does it give you?

I think full body picture is open to interpretation. You might send a full-length clothed shot, you might think it means I want to see your body.

I suppose you could word it full length, but you might get something else back 😂

I'd just assume he was also on Grindr, but maybe I just lived in Brighton for too long 😁

It gives you an idea of his build and it's harder to hide a beer belly or whatever than a just face shots.

They advise on dating sites to include a full-length shot with your photos. What's the point of getting to the stage of meeting someone if they're going to be put off by your physique in person?

Oh fgs op

As someone who's been on OLD for a very long time (on and off in between relationships) I WANT to see what's the body type of the man I'm going on a date with. Is he fat? slim? athletic? slim with a beer belly? very skinny? Out of shape?Body types give you an incredible amount of information on the person. is he into fitness? a big drinker? Does he take care of his health? etc.. etc...A clothed picture is fine, a selfie in his underwear is too much information.

I thought body shots was something else entirely! But I'm single after 20+ years in a shitty marriage and terrified of OLD.

Its much easier to know if you are attracted to someone physically, than their personality. The picture sounds a good way of ticking that box then see what his personality is like when you meet. I don't think its sleazy.

Christ he couldn't win here could he.

A date is meant to be part of the excitement/disappointment.

I think asking for a full body shot is a bit like you were ordering a male escort.

However, since you are both comfortable with that, crack on!

Whaaaaaaat?

This

If I'm going on a date with a guy I want to know if he's fat, skinny or a body builder, yes he's not a sex worker and I'm not planning to pay and shag him, but I don't want to go on a date with a man I'm not physically attracted to. I don't need a selfie of him in his underwear to know his body type, too much information. A full body picture of him standing up in some sporty attire will do.

You asked and he obliged. You liked what you saw, so don't overthink it. Let us know how the date goes 😄

You asked for a full body shot

He sent you a full body shot

What's it got to do with your friend?

She's probably jealous

Was his head in the photo op?

I think if he was more invested in something serious and long term he wouldn't have sent it. He wants NSA fun. I hope he's not expecting you to send a similarly (un)dressed photo of your body back to him?

Sending a revealing photo is totally advertising the goods. I don't think it's sleazy but very sexual.