Sexy or just sleazy?

[Tuilpmouse]

Ok... been messaging a guy for a couple of weeks or so on OLD. All good so far, and looking to meet next weekend.

Anyway, he hasn't included any full body shots in his profile, so I asked for one... And he sent one with him just in his Calvin Kleins! Have to admit, he looked pretty hot!

Anyway, i mentioned this to a friend, and she thought he was a sleazebag for sending that, and I should ditch and move on. Now I'm not sure so I thought I'd look for some other opinions. So, was his photo sexy or just sleazy?

I'm gonna say far far worse. 😂

Full body shot not sounding so bad now 😂

In all seriousness though OP, I think your request was sleazy, he just sent you what you asked for.

I think that’s fair. You asked for one and he sent it! Depends on the wider context of messages though

You asked for it and you got it! At least he kept his pants on. If he’s hot, then why not?

Thanks for the replies.

As for my request being sleazy, i just wanted more than a head shot before agreeing to meet up. Superficial? Maybe, but if I was turned right off by a photo of him, then there's be no point in meeting up and wasting both of our times.

If someone asked me for a full body shot before we met I would ignore and dump them. Pretty immature IMO.

It's only been two weeks since we first messaged... I really don't see how that's a red flag!

Really not sleazy IMO. He got a message from a person he liked asking for a pic of his body. If I was in a texting convo with someone with the aim of meeting, dating or anything I would assume you wanted a picture of this nature. Given my experience on dating apps I would say this is not sleazy. Maybe a bit shocking, but not sleazy. In comparison had a man ask me I would consider jumping out a birthday cake naked, congratulate me on my breasts and so many of the classic male "meat" pics shall we call them without any invitation. They are what I consider sleaze...

I used to hate it when men asked me for a full body shot. What it means to me, is that I'm being sized up and judged on my body shape. Imagine if the tables were turned.

Have you been turned off?

a full body shot is really not going to make much of a difference, a man can always send an old photo that bears no resemblance to what he currently looks like...just meet in person!

But people do judge on initial physical attraction. Surely it's better to be dismissed at the early stages than to bother meeting up to be rejected in person?

Dont most people want too when they are starting out seeing each other.

Be weirder if sexual interest wasnt part of dating tbh.

How would you feel if he asked for a full body shot?

Yup

But please please ask for a picture of a full body shit and report back what he sends

If he is fit and his body is toned it’s fine. If he’s out of shape then he’s being a sexual predator and sleaze.

This, in a nutshell.

If in a cafe you ask for a cappuccino are you surprised to get one?

If it was unsolicited i’d think more sleazy and trying to get me to reciprocate with an underwear shot. However, you asked for it and you’ve said his physique is important to you (whether or not that’s shallow doesn’t really matter, it is one of your considerations). He’s responded, has a banging body - seems like a win to me considering your position on it all!!!

And to be fair, your request was probably the one of the two that was more on the sleazy side!!

He’s looking for a shag, if you want something “more” ditch him.

Sleazy.

But also this:

If I was asked for a full body shit by a guy I would think he was sleazy.

It's asking for trouble if you don't want to see more than you bargained for.

It was her who asked for a full body pic!

It's ok, but it's clear the relationship in his mind, is going to be based on sex. If this is what you want, then go for it