His home is unclean

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My boyfriend moved back in with his mother after his divorce. He had no property as he and his ex wife used to rent. I stopped over while his mother was away. I felt depressed staying there as a lot of the rooms are painted dark, some of the lights don't work and need an electrician, there is a lot of clutter and a strong smell of cats as they walk on the kitchen worktops which one urinated a lot in the home. When his mother was away he kept the cats in one room and the smell went. There was mould all over the showerhead and the bath jets which I had to clean the mould off the shower head and jets because I don't want to be showering in mould. His mother does no housework and stays in her room as she gets depressed.

Now his mother his back she wants the cats to roam around the house. He even told her his daughters won't stop over because of the cats.

I do blame him because he had one cat which got pregnant and he personally kept 2 kittens but got rid of another 4 kittens. I cant understand him as he said he can't stand the cats.

My boyfriend is saving for a deposit and keeps saying he wants to move out as soon as he can. I just don't want to stop there again. My mood has lifted since I got home as it light and clean.

This.

Nobody ever falls in love faster than a man in need of a maid home.

@TheShellBeach He keeps saying at his previous property he was always cooking as there were no cats and worktop space.

This bloke has kids, so he’ll likely really ramp up the campaign to slither in to your home. ‘It’s not safe at mums. Oh you’d love the kids, they’re so cute. Seems silly to waste money on a deposit when I love you so much. Why don’t you want to raise my kids for me?’

You have seen, touched and smelt exactly what you’d be knowingly signing up for if you keep this man hanging about. Personally, no penis on earth is worth such foulness.

He even told her his daughters won't stop over because of the cats.

So he doesn’t even parent his offspring? He’s lining you up, he must think you’re mug enough to have him. I’d be insulted.

Lol. That was when his ex was doing all the cleaning for him.

He doesn't work 7 days a week. He got a cat, and didn't have it spayed, and so now has multiple cats- so he is equally, if not more so responsible, for their crap and piddle- which he doesn't deal with. He gives a desultory swipe at the muck but doesn't ever clean anything- and even his kids aren't a good enough motivator to bother his arse..........whilst his mother obviously is responsible for the mess and the grime, it's her house and sounds like it's been this way for years, he could have done more to help.

What on earth do you see in him? He doesn't clean, he doesn't seem to want to spend time with his children and he doesn't even manage to eat? How old is he?
What does he add to your life? I am frequently shocked at the low standards so many women on here seem to have.
Wouldn't you rather be single ... a clean, fresh, cat free lifestyle?

Your boyfriend sounds useless. He didn't even clean a mouldy bathroom when you were coming over.

Why did he and his former wife split up?

HOW have you not got the ick?

He is living in the house he should be cleaning it and helping his mum out by getting the electrics fixed. Beware this is how he'll treat his own home and yours if you ever live together.

Why is your relationship bar this low that this man is at all your boyfriend?.

Is this for real? I mean, I've shagged a few blokes with questionable housekeeping skills but they never became boyfriends, and that was definitely part of the reason why. I won't live in squalor.

Many women work long hours. Parent their kids alone. And clean the shower head.

wiping surfaces and hoovering goes without saying. If he works a 12 hour day down a mine it’s still easy to clean the shower head. Presumably he has time to do all this if he has time to date?

He is telling you exactly whose job cleaning cooking and childcare is. Run.

Hold on a minute here.

this man had a cat that got pregnant and he kept two kittens. But he is seriously allergic to cats?

he lives with his mother in a very unhygienic home that he will only vacuum and wipe around? His mother has been living with faulty electrics and he is living there with her but hasn’t got in an electrician to fix it?

he sounds like a useless lazy sod. Why are you blaming his mother for this? What do you see in him?

He's lining you up.

Where on earth did you meet him?

Also, any man that is willing to let his depressed mother live in a dirty, moldy house that stinks of cat piss and has dodgy electrics is not a man I'd be considering being in a relationship with.

His mother does no housework and stays in her room as she gets depressed.

He’s the same.

To be fair to him he does vacuum around and wipe the kitchen worktops but works long shifts and has his own health issues to deal with too.

Why are you defending him? This is gross. He doesn’t even know what basic cleanliness looks like - or if he does he doesn’t care to expose you to filth. He has more time in his hands than anyone else. Why can’t he keep the place clean?

He said when he gets his own place he won't have cats.

What’s he going to do - leave them behind (like his DCs)? How many cats are at this property?

I do blame him because he had one cat which got pregnant and he personally kept 2 kittens but got rid of another 4 kittens.

Totally irresponsible - so it’s his own 3 cats that are all over the work tops?

Listen to your gut - this is him at is sparkling best.

Why did his RS end?

Why has he not sorted the house? Does he shower in the mouldy bath, you managed to clean it why couldn’t he? Why has he not sorted the cats with litter trays etc (not a cat person no idea how to sort cats myself) Why has he not had the electrics checked, cleaned and painted his room, the kitchen, the house, whatever?

Dont6 stay there End of.

You should be sprinting for the hills. Forewarned is fair warned. Ignore the red flags at your own peril.

This is the question.

There truly are women out there who will tolerate ANYTHING. Christ.

There was mould all over the showerhead and the bath jets which I had to clean the mould off the shower head and jets because I don't want to be showering in mould.

I don’t think I could let a penis near me that had been “cleaned” in a mouldy shower.

Aww how cute.. a budding cocklodger in the early stages

i feel like Richard Attenborough

He sounds like a child. People who work long shifts still clean. You think everyone who works lives in filth? And the eating poorly is on him too.

What a dirty lazy fucker.

Having a shower that’s not clean to begin with. Grim.

Doesnt cook because the cats go on the kitchen sides - hasn’t he heard of these fabulous things called cloths and cleaning products?

Got a cat that he allowed to get pregnant through his own irresponsibility but has an allergy. 😂

Works long hours so prevents him from looking after the place he is staying. - a lot of people work long hours and don’t like in a shit hole

His dds probably don’t want to stay over because he cannot be arses providing a clean environment with working electricity.

Id dump him. Wouldn’t bother telling him he’s a lazy dirty fucker as it won’t be the first time he’s heard this.

I have depression and a number of health issues. When I deteriorate and don’t really leave my room, mess in other rooms isn’t caused by me but by others.