For what it's worth, I'm not one to judge other people's relationships and you love who you love, ok. My husband is 14 years older than myself and I know how it feels for people to comment and judge that. But I just can't wrap my head around this, he's still married to my mum. They've not gone on for as long as I can remember, but they stayed married and living together (albeit very separately in a big house). Mum is just upset because she wanted it to stay that way and doesn't want to start again by herself in old age but says she has no feeling towards him being with other people despite that.
It's just all so weird! The woman he has gotten pregnant is 45 and apparently it was a big shock at her age as she didn't think she could have kids but she wants to have the baby and he wants to 'do the right thing' and be with her (funnily enough the exact same reason he married my mum!)
Not entirely sure how to process this whole thing? Has anyone had this? It's just surreal to be honest. I'm a few weeks off having my second child so he's going to have a baby younger than this grandchild.
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My dad is becoming a dad again at 70
viennisewhirl · 07/11/2022 16:54
Meklk · 07/11/2022 20:25
I don't think someone would say a word if he would be 50,and she 25. If she has a good health - why not? 45 is not a pensioner.
PortiasBiscuit · 08/11/2022 06:31
This child will be your half-sibling, they is unlikely to have a father into adulthood. They will need the support of her/ his family.
Why make this just about your Dad, there is a child here too
PortiasBiscuit · 08/11/2022 06:31
This child will be your half-sibling, they is unlikely to have a father into adulthood. They will need the support of her/ his family.
Why make this just about your Dad, there is a child here too
ElBandito · 08/11/2022 08:24
If you honestly believe that your father is starting the road towards dementia then advise your mum to divorce as soon as she can for both their sakes. Looking after someone with dementia is hard enough; looking after someone with dementia when you can hardly tolerate them would be impossible, horrendous for both of them.
PortiasBiscuit · 08/11/2022 06:31
This child will be your half-sibling, they is unlikely to have a father into adulthood. They will need the support of her/ his family.
Why make this just about your Dad, there is a child here too
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