For what it's worth, I'm not one to judge other people's relationships and you love who you love, ok. My husband is 14 years older than myself and I know how it feels for people to comment and judge that. But I just can't wrap my head around this, he's still married to my mum. They've not gone on for as long as I can remember, but they stayed married and living together (albeit very separately in a big house). Mum is just upset because she wanted it to stay that way and doesn't want to start again by herself in old age but says she has no feeling towards him being with other people despite that.
It's just all so weird! The woman he has gotten pregnant is 45 and apparently it was a big shock at her age as she didn't think she could have kids but she wants to have the baby and he wants to 'do the right thing' and be with her (funnily enough the exact same reason he married my mum!)
Not entirely sure how to process this whole thing? Has anyone had this? It's just surreal to be honest. I'm a few weeks off having my second child so he's going to have a baby younger than this grandchild.
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viennisewhirl · 07/11/2022 16:54
emptythelitterbox · 07/11/2022 18:23
poor child.
so irresponsible of him.
Slig · 07/11/2022 21:07
My dad had a kid at that age. The kid is younger than mine.
I've never met the kid, don't want to either.
My dad is now got laid up in a care home with dementia. Kid was 8 when he was admitted, they must be 15 now. Poor thing.
I wrote a post on here at the time saying I didn't want to meet the kid. Got absolutely slated. 🙄
Not the innocents baby's fault etc etc.
Yeah but not my fault/problem either. I got a coupe of texts from my dad telling me how amazing the kid was. Yeah dad you have 2 amazing grandkids and older kids (me included) that you can't be assed with! Didn't text that, just ignored his texts.
Have still not met the kid, although if they do seek me out in the future I would not make them unwelcome.
Definitely was the right decision for me.
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Fattoushi · 07/11/2022 17:59
I wouldn't have anything to do with him or his new family. It's got disaster written all over it, never mind the major ick factor.
BCBird · 07/11/2022 21:02
Yes the term.irresponsible is for both of them.
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