Husband asked me to leave

[mrsjimhopper]

Very sad right now packing a few bits into a carriers.

It's his house so I can't stay. He's holding that over me and He's being really mean. I'm pretty upset. Been a long time coming. I've asked him to be kinder to me as I'm doing what he wants me to do which is leave.

I know I'd deserve better but I don't want to be alone. No children involved - we couldn't have them.

He doesn't know whether he wants to talk to me or not. So I'm Just sat waiting in another room.

Just want a handhold please. I don't knew how I will survive this week.

Thinking of you.

Are you married ?

if so he can not ask you to leave as it is joint

say no

see solicitor

I'm sorry this is happening. If you are married arnt you entitled to half the house though ?

Op - find your strength

Pack up what you need , start to make plans in your head

Do not sit and wait to see if he wants to talk to you

Get out of there and start a whole new chapter of your life

Do you have friends or family you could go to in the meantime ?

You will be ok and one day you will see this was not meant to be

If your married he doesn't have the right to do this you can stay unless you want to go

You have given this person complete power over you. Take it back. Can you go somewhere for the time being. Sounds like you are alone already. Better being alone on your own terms than be worth someone who choses "when they will talk to you".

How long have you been married?

Only go if you have somewhere to go. Do you suspect OW?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but if he owned the house before marriage that doesn't automatically become joint property.

I don’t know about the legal side of things, but is it possible to get his demand for you to leave in a text or email? If it turns out that you do have a right to stay in the house (but would rather leave at this moment) then something in writing (or voice recording?) might be useful later.

You have my sympathy and I am sending a handhold. I am seeing a therapist and I am trying to learn not to be intimidated by my STBXH. Look after yourself and don’t let him be the decider of everything.

I know I need to go and I need to find the strength to do it. I don't want to be here. But I also don't want to be homeless, ,childless and 42. I'm fucked financially, made bad decision. I can go to a relatives.

I know i can legally stay here and he can't kick me out. He has said he will change the locks. He said it isn't my home.

I am not entitled to half the house. He said he will talk to me but is watching football And won't turn it off to talk to me.

He says it's my fault because I'm always having a go at him. It just not true. I'm so caring and loving and just want to please.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but if he owned the house before marriage that doesn't automatically become joint property

Depends how long they've been married I think, if it's a short marriage then you could be right, over 5 years I always thought it didn't matter and the op would have a claim to a % of the house

Do you know why he wants you out?

Agree. Don't leave. You're married so the house belongs to both of you as a joint asset.

See a solicitor ASAP. Stay put.

@Donepaying this is what I need to do I just can't.

If you are married then you have a right to stay in the house until you are divorced. How long have you been married, and how long have you been together?

Make a solicitor appointment tomorrow, dont leave until you have seen one. Just sleep in a different room, eat meals separately etc.

Stay put. Speak to a very good solicitor tomorrow.

Tell him to leave if he wants to, but you are entitled to 50% of everything you jointly own. Start finding some strength to fight your corner op.

Did he ask you to leave in an argument or was it pre-meditated?

Four years married. I don't want the house or any of the Money really as nice as it would be. He keeps saying I owe him half the mortgage payments.

But I have paid for lots of work to be done on the house. He said he wouldn't have done the work if I had t been there.

To add to my post tell your husband you need a minimum of a week to find a new place, that gives you a breathing space to speak to a solicitor. Find out your options first.

7 years together - 7 year itch.

I don't suspect OW. I suspect he isn't NT.

@mrsjimhopper you can .. take some deep breaths , then get bloody angry !!!

You said yourself this was a long time coming so is it really as sad and heartbreaking as you think it is right now? have you been happy , satisfied , secure , respected , had fun , enjoyed good sex , been equally responsible and proactive in life together ? I'm guessing not ?

YES YOU DO DESERVE BETTER AND THIS IS NOW YOUR CHANCE

@BigFatLiar hes says it because I keep having a go at him.

Neither or us happy though so I can see why he is saying it.

I'd rather talk and work though jt but he doesn't want to.

He doesn't get to say you both have no right to stay in the house then also insist you owe him half the mortgage payments

@Donepaying no none of those things I can say yes too. I'm sad to be alone and I don't want to be. I'm
Sad to not have a home.

How long have you been married op?

If it's a medium- long term marriage then the whole house (and all savings, pensions etc) are marital assets and will go in the pot to be shared, no matter whose they were originally, who earned them or contributed.

Similarly if you can evidence your contribution to the home improvements and bills, you will be entitled to some of the equity.

He cannot make you pay half the mortgage if he lives there on his own, that's his payback for single occupancy.

Take a breath. Get some distance. Then get angry at how he's treating you. Get on the wikivorce forum to get an idea of your next steps.

Good luck.