What's the honeymoon period like if you're in your 40s or 50s?

[FatAntelope]

I'm pending divorce. And just wondering what the beginning of a relationship is like when you're passed your peak physical appearance?

Is the beginning of the relationship still all loved up and all about sex?

If it's not...that's not a bad thing as it will probably make me trust the relationship more but just wondered if the loved up feeling manages to override the fact that neither of our bodies will be as sexy as they used to be.

Yep. Want to rip each other’s clothes off. Get that gooey feeling when you see their name flash up on your phone. Makes you feel incredible. Just can’t always act on your feelings because of other commitments and kids…
well that’s was my experience anyway. 4 years later, still in the honeymoon period

I think the feelings are just the same as when you’re young!

It's amazing !

And the sex is the same tbh if you’ve met a person you’re attracted to and they feel the same.

When I divorced in my 40s I thought I would never be with a man again. In fact the thought turned my stomach. When I met someone I liked, that all changed fortunately!

We met when we were late 30s/early 40s. Twenty years later we still fancy the pants off each other and get all gooey.
sex is less frequent ( both of us have chronic health problems and DH is still getting over sepsis and a stay in ITU) but we cuddle and kiss a lot (and grope)
i think our honeymoon period never left us…

@toobusytothink oh that's lovely to read!

@5yearplan can I ask if you met through online dating or somewhere else?

@ColinRobinsonsFart 😍😍😍 how long have you been together?

Like being a teenager again 🤣

We met online nearly 20 yrs ago. I had teenage kids from two previous marriages. He had no kids- never married before. I tell him he’s the best husband I have ever had, he says…’ditto’ 🤪

Oh and the sex is waaaaaaay better!!!!!!!!

Same as at any age....wonderful. And I agree the sex is better. Having the best sex of my life at almost 50. Who knew?

so in answer to your question about bodies not being as sexy … he should make you feel that your body is the sexiest thing he has ever seen and make you feel confident about your body and god damn gorgeous. Even if the reality is saggy boobs. If he doesn’t then Chuck him back.
but same goes for you. You must make him feel amazing about himself too

It’s the same, if not more intense! Been with boyfriend for around 18 months now and we’re still like giggly teenagers and having mindblowing sex 😆

5 months in... Can't keep my hands off each other, great sex too.

I’m the opposite . I have a newish boyfriend but am so concious of my new overweight body that I avoid sex .
i wish I didn’t as I still fancy him and want sex but I hate how my body has changed

I thought I'd never let a man see me naked ever again. I'm overweight (obese officially) and just thought any man would be grossed out by my body. Being in a sexless marriage for over 10 years hadn't helped.

When I started dating my boyfriend I admitted that I was very nervous and he was happy to take things slow. I was thinking I'd probably wait a month, or two, or three, before sleeping with him. But I actually felt so comfortable it was 2.5

3 years later, I still get butterflies and want to jump on him when I see him

I am very ancient /assumed would never have or want sex again and completely unexpectedly met a gorgeous man. When I i asked what attracted him to me he mentioned a couple of things including ‘ you have a great body’ 😁 My figure is Okay with n clothes on but saggy without.

Are you on HRT?

Late 50s, 7 months in and having great sex. I thought I wouldn't care if I never had sex again, how wrong I was
He says I am the sexiest woman he has ever known. I have to be honest, it has taken me by surprise, a lovely surprise

Oh it's lovely reading these ❤️ thank you

That was meant to say 2.5 weeks. I was quite keen in the end. He made me feel very special and wanted. Still does.

Another almost 50 year old having the best sex of their life. I'm not in great shape but my other half of almost a year (from Tinder - there are good ones on there) thinks I'm amazing and I think he's pretty special too. I really hope that feeling lasts.

Met online and honeymoon period was just the same, could not get enough of each other, butterflies when I saw his name flash up. In fact over two years in and hasn't changed

Yes of course! I met my husband when he was early 40s me 39 and we did it as much as when I was in my 20s.
Have to say I wasn't passed my peak then - I was probably at it!

It’s much much better sex than teenage years as I don’t want to get married and have children any more - been there done that - and I know I can survive happily as a single person . The relationship is for me and so much more fun without all that youthful angst.