Find my partner repulsive !!

[Jennastar]

Help! I have been with my partner for 8 years and for the last 3 years I have started to find him repulsive. He has gained a lot of weight, which as he is short makes him look awful, has some horrible habits like clearing his throat, spending ages on the toilet stinking the house out, always has to be right in all situations and his selfishness has become a complete joke. He puts himself before the kids, he also always uses the word geezer, Just to think of him makes my skin crawl.
I have tried talking to him countless times about his habits, encouraging him to eat a little less etc but he says it’s his life.
Bottom line is I am stuck. I feel I can’t leave because my ds age 6 would be inconsolable although a mummys boy he has separation issues and anxiety and never likes to be apart from me.
we have a beautiful new home. Without him I would not even have enough for a small flat. My childrens lifestyle would change. I could never give them what they have been used to.
Do I stay living like this or do something drastic……..

Oh come on. He sits in the bathroom having a shit for ages, called everyone geezer and has put loads of weight on. No thank you.

I can promise no one is jealous of you.

So many posters have failed to read your title and posts correctly, wittering on about a marriage. You can’t be dependent in any way on a boyfriend, especially in a relationship on such perilous grounds. The focus needs to be on housing yourself, and co-parenting. Joint owners means it’s likely the house will need to be sold, apart from that, being legally single already it should be fairly easy to move on without this boyfriend.

Would some of you posters happily live this gross pig?

If you have a spare room move in there and live your own life. Its not as bad as it sounds. Its worth telling him you feel no love for him (leave out the repulsive word) and want to live your own life but cooperate with him wherever possible.

OP this sounds absolutely awful. I could not live like this, I would feel the same as you. Even reading it knocks me sick.spitting in the sink is absolutely vile. Its not ok. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

Thank you to the lovely lot (wish I had time to hand you all) that were supportive and or offered me constructive criticism. Some of you in whilst defending me against some of the trolls on this thread had me in hysterics!

I took the decision. Like I said earlier NOT to respond to the poor insecure, nasty trolls who CLEARLY did not want to read of try to understand my post. I will NEVER explain myself to them.

For those women who had something with while to say I thank you again!

Oh & believe me I truly understand that we are all entitled to our own difference of opinions but when your opinion has nothing to do with my post or is plain nasty then this speaks volumes about you.

I have some savings coming to me an D.C. have decided to take steps in moving away from him. Me & our 2 ds shall be much happier. I have tried for years to help my partner, support him, be there for him but he has to want to change.

I am looking forward to a better future. Definitely less disgusting one……..

Omg ! That was meant to read name you all 🫣

Hi @Jennastar wow the witches really have been out in force!! They are just pathetic !!

I would run for it. You have tried hard, he sounds like a complete selfish pig. He doesn’t deserve you my love.

get yourself a nice little place for you and your kids and don’t say you never tried!!

I was unhappy for 15 years until I decided to end the marriage. Now I’m very happy.

Best of luck!!

‘Are you the same weight you were when you got married and had a child? If no, then criticising him for his weight gain smacks of double standards’

lol no it doesn’t men don’t naturally gain weight with children . For many women a couple of kgs PERMANENT weight gain after children is completely healthy and normal . Some women may not but for the body type of mahy women this weight gain is natural during child reading years .
womens bodies are heavily influenced throughout their lives by hormones in ways mens are not . also womens bodies store fat completely differently to men s
what awareness/learning and knowledge do you have of pregnancy and.. maternal health? Womens hormones and bodies ?

OP sounds like he makes very little effort to have manners and be an appealing person to be around

Oh not this wanker again.

How did you stumble on here.

Go back to red pill, mgtow, Incel forums FFS.

Hey I’m just wondering how things are? As I’m in a similar position happy to talk to someone that can relate xx

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@ZinaRose hopefully she’s dumped the stinking ‘geezer’ 😄

Life is for enjoying, not dating a literally shitty idiot.

@Theskyisfallingdown
Well said, very apt.

@Jennastar
You poor woman. He’s an all-round vile specimen of a man.

Because you’re so enmeshed with DCs, mortgage etc he obviously thinks you’re trapped with him no matter how disgustingly he behaves.