I realize that I am probably going to get lynched for this but?
If this post had been from someone saying that their dh had stormed out after a row, gone to the pub and had got so drunk he couldn?t remember much but had ended up having sex with another woman, would the dh be getting this much sympathy? Because somehow I don?t think so.
Now I?m not saying that everyone should fall down in judgemen of the op, but the fact is that she did something incredibly stupid and she needs to take responsibility for her actions, this is not just about her, she could have contracted any number of STI?s and would thus have put her dh at risk, she may be pregnant and even the MAP isn?t 100% safe, and while not telling dh might seem an easy way out, if this is generally a close loving relationship, then there wil come a time where the betrayal will become too much to bear, and telling him later might have far greater consequences than telling him now.
Op, you know that you?ve been incredibly stupid, it?s done now, but it?s how you decide to deal with it that matters. IMO you need to tell your dh, because if you don?t you will have to carry this around for the rest of your life, and do you really think you can do that? Also, viruses like HIV have up to a three month window period when they?re not detected, so if there?s a chance you could have been exposed to HIV then you?re putting your dh, and your future baby if you conceive one, at risk.
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this isn?t just about going to the clinic for a test, taking the MAP and forgetting that it ever happened, if your dh exposed you to STI?s and didn?t tell you how would you feel?
If you don?t tell him now this will eat away at you and might possibly affect your marriage in the future.