Ladies, do you think guys watching any kind of porn is a red flag?

[Blondieturtle]

I'm starting to wonder if guys watching porn is a red flag completely. This idea is getting more and more popular among women, and for those of you who have been with men who don't watch it at all, is there a noticeable difference in how they treat you as compared to other men?
There are just so many videos out there that condone abuse and pedo like tendencies and I feel like it's highly unlikely that a guy who watches it hasn't gotten off on these kinds of videos. Words like young, teen, forced, rough, ect. in the tilte of videos are so common I feel. Plus I think it's extremely easy and common for guys to be obsessed with it. My ex 24 bf had a reddit account dedicated to porn and tons of vids and photos saved on his phone and laptop and it made me feel so icky! I had watched porn in the past but it was always a get in and get out thing, having anything saved just feels gross.
Ladies, Is it worth it to find a guy who never watches it or do you think it's possible for men to have a healthy relationship with it?

There isn't anything wrong with watching other people in a room having sex IF both watchers and watched are fully consenting. Voyeurism implies that those being watched haven't consented.

I do not in theory have a problem with ethically produced porn - but in reality, how can you ever be certain that all those involved were there entirely of their own free will, absolutely no coercion for any act, and consented to having their video shared, while understanding all the connotations of that, and that it will be out there forever? You can't.

I hadn’t taken voyeurism to have connotations of non-consent, to be honest. When I’ve been in the same room as people having sex, they generally know I’m there. If it does refer to non-consent then it’s an odd comparison for the pp to make with porn: apart from a small subset of homemade porn where people might not know they’re being filmed, the majority of porn actors are fully aware that people will be watching what they’re making. Going into a studio filled with cameras and having sex in front of them sort of gives the game away.

I don’t watch poem that isn’t made by people I know, so I don’t have any particular interest in justifying why others who do, do it But I’m not certain of the provenance of most things in my life - my food, my clothing, my jewellery, the mined metals in my electronics. Almost certainly all produced by desperate people living far shittier existences than the majority of porn actors. It would be hypocritical of me to pretend outrage.

Just yuk.💩

Addictions to porn, it's not what I'd call a hobby, seems a bit low brow.

Men with too much time on their HANDS, literally. 🙁

I’m so sorry I can’t add anything constructive to this thread, but wanted to share:
In Australia, today, office of 49 people. I spoke about mumsnet and showed some threads to show colleagues why I’m hooked on this site.

49 of us, pretty equal ratio of male to female: ALL of us think the poster who said that porn is the same as erotic literature is an absolute melt. Does he really believe that? Damn those trafficked sentences.

@ComtesseDeSpair
Assuming the people in the room know you’re there, what’s wrong with voyeurism?

Why are you asking me, and why have you assigned a value judgment to my question?