DH and I have been married for 20 years and have three children, two secondary aged - 14 and 12 - and one aged 7.
We have had sex twice since the 7 year old was conceived. We both got married very young and I don’t think it was a good match in lots of ways from the start.
About 18 months ago I started an affair with someone at work. It wasn’t all hearts and flowers and I know it wasn’t real life in lots of ways but it was real in terms of feelings, which I’ve not had with DH. I think I was very lonely at the time and desperate for some affection and care. Im not excusing it though. I told DH about the affair around 12 months ago and he said he wanted to stay together and was equally to blame as he’d not ever supported me with the children or shown any interest in me or them.
He has been more involved with the children since but my feelings have not come back. I miss my AP and how I felt in that relationship. I know this is selfish. I don’t know at what point we just accept it is beyond the point of no return? How do you know when there is just no way back? How much more time do we give it?