Help! Marriage / crush

[Chocosprinkle]

I feel so ashamed that something like that has happened to me. I've been married to a lovely man for close to 15 years. I can't fault him on anything. I've met someone through work. I feel hugely attracted to him. I thought having him become a friend would help but things are getting worse. I keep thinking about him. I think he fancies me too. We can talk for hours. We have lots in common..
I don't want to cheat on my husband. Nothing has happened other than flirting and bantering. How do I make this go away so I can stop fancying him and return to my boring stable family life.

What I mean OP is that as soon as you acknowledge that you really are very charming and gorgeous, you will see it isn’t such a unique phenomenon after all. Be admired!

Also if that doesn’t work:

Imagine your husband single. Imagine you’ve broken up, and he’s in a different office looking hot and there’s a woman in there like you who connects with him, makes eye contact, buys him a present. He likes her too. He has that feeling you’ve got, and he’s free to act on it.

Do you want that? Because it’s what’ll happen if you get into this stuff.

How are you doing OP?

Amazing love story? You're delusional. Men like your crush know exactly what they are doing and they do it to other women at the same time, too. It's like a sport to them. He just wants to get his dick wet with a married woman. If he genuinely liked you he would have pulled back out of respect for your life. He keeps flirting because he doesn't give two fucks about anything but himself. He sees his effect on you, a middle aged married woman swooning for him like he is the last man on earth and it makes him feel hugely flattered. He only wants to fuck you, just like he wants to fuck that one and that one. Men can fancy and flirt with multiple women at the same time. Don't ruin your life and break your husband's trust for a man who only sees you as an ego boost and a game.

Ughhh just saw it's an old thread. 🙄
She probably had an affair by now.

Hope the OP has got over this now and has worked on her marriage