Would you support a partner through addiction?

[Stewi]

would it be a dealbreaker or if not at what point would it become a dealbreaker?

If you are going to support, do it from a distance. It might be better all round if you stay apart, given that he falls off the waggon only when you've got back together - more likely, the other times you don't know about when not together.
You've given it a few goes now, he's had fair warning.
Has he had rehab, counselling, group therapy, or just tells you he doesn't dabble when on a break - only a drug test could back it up.

No, supporting an addict requires an enormous amount of patience and understanding. They will lie and basically do whatever they can to get that next high, be it drink,drugs ,gambling etc. I’ve seen a very good friend support her husband unconditionally ( he has a gambling problem), he has ruined her life and that’s no exaggeration.
So yes, I’ll double down on that , No I wouldn’t , no matter who it was

I supported my now husband. Wasn't easy and we did have relapses but I do believe people have an immense capacity for change if they really want to. He was a gambling addict and had been clean for 10 plus years now.

I would add though that we got to rock bottom and then some before he realised the threats were real and change needed to happen. And getting to rock bottom is horrific - I was worried we wouldn't recover and I'd no longer love him for some of the terrible things he did. But I knew it wasn't him and I still believed he was the person I loved.

I also realised that I couldn't help him on my own. Is your partner seeking professional help? I made my husband tell family and friends because the burden of pretending everything was ok at the same time as going through it was too much for me.

I find these threads hard to read though because it could have been so different. And addictions can totally ruin lives and relationships.

Never again. It is far too damaging to the supportive partner and any children involved. Supporting a partner with an addiction means putting up with lies, always being less important than the addiction, not knowing what mood they will be in tomorrow / this evening / in an hour's time, never being able to trust they are where they say they are or they're doing what they say they're doing, watching someone you love change in to another person (one who never puts you first or worries about you), being a 24/7 carer, not knowing how family money is being spent.

I would do my best to support a partner if they acknowledged the addiction, took responsibility for it and were actively doing their best to get out of it. Otherwise, I would put the lifebelt on me for my children's sake, and get out.

It sounds more like a lapse rather than a full on relapse it’s up to you wether to support him or not if he goes full blown I’d walk away he’s an addict and will be one for life we’re human and arnt perfect it depends if he wants to continue with recovery or not and how you feel if he’s right back on it thou I wouldn’t let him stay.