Did anything awful ever happen to your ex? I feel guilty for being happy about it

[Retopa]

Something awful has happened to mine and my initial reaction was happiness. I hate myself for this and since I’ve reflected i do also feel sad it has happened. His is DC’s dad and that alone makes me feel terrible. He’s never met dc and gave me hell but honestly I was glad he is suffering. I’m a bitch for that, I know. Can’t tell anyone IRL!

YANBU. It's not an awful one really, just a lucky escape. After 12 years of hassle my ex has finally remortgaged our home (where he still lives with new DW and their DD) in order to take me off the joint mortgage. After much legal wrangling we settled on a payout to me. Still owes me money a relative lent us which I eventually agreed to write off. Reluctantly agreed to the deal as was the best it was going to get but irritated at the thought of him benefitting from over twice as much equity as I had been given and laughing at me. All completed in August after him going way over the timescale set by the courts. Am now cheered at him being re-mortgaged up to the hilt, facing negative equity and high interest once whatever fixed term he has ends and very thankful for taking the cash!

I’ll say it again and maybe a little louder - I don’t give two shits

It’s almost amusing quite how ironic the post you quoted is.

complete failure to have any empathy for the people who should ‘be ashamed of themselves’ for not using empathy and critical thinking to be understanding of the ‘reasons for behaving badly’ of the person whose behaviour is doing them harm.

Genuinely, I don’t believe this has anything to do with empathy. It’s pretty much always a selective stick to beat people with and to outline their moral superiority.

If it were about empathy, maybe they’d be using that and critical thinking to consider why the person they’re berating feels or behaves the way they do.

No wonder you don’t give any shits.

After I fled an abusive relationship I found out that the lovely neighbour had heard a lot of the abuse and once she was sure I was safe she reported him to our landlord and he got evicted.

Now that made me happy .

I had a horrible boyfriend when I was 19 he was manipulative and tried to control me - thankfully I had 2 brothers who told him to do one

However he is now 50 and childless, single, has been declared bankrupt, lost his licence for drink driving, and a woman he dated took him to the cleaners and he must weigh about 28 stone!!! He used to be really slim and keep fit etc....

My friend does OLD and apparently he's floating round on there wanting to meet "the one"

I'm not sorry at all - every dog has ita day as they say!!!! I have a lovely partner, old step kids who are great with my little children, and we aren't living a fancy lifestyle but we're really happy

"Older" stepkids that should say they are only in their 20's 🤦🏻‍♀️