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Met guy on holiday

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:36

went on holiday to turkey with my friend wasnt looking for anyone the unexpected happened a met a turkish guy we both hit it off
when i came back he called every night after he finished work ,one night he asked if i could buy him mobile phone as his is no good and send to him ,which he has a smashed screen he said he would pay me back every month as he can not afford to buy out right he also says he has to get a visa to come over as the plan was for him to come and visit me but he says its hard for him to come over because of the visa situation i would have to send invitation for him
i am quite confused whats going on so i ended conversation said i need time tothink i have no idea about turkish men we also chatted about me going to istanbul at christmas to meet up by myself i am not comfortable going by myself i would go with a friend if that was the case any help on this matter would be great

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Howdoyoulikeyoureggsinthemorning · 06/10/2022 15:30

Full stops are free...

JoanCandy · 06/10/2022 15:33

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:45

yeah i know i"m just too nice to say that

knew it was too good to be true

he said it wasnt easy for him to come here cos of visa situation

You’re too nice - don’t let that be a negative, OP, but think about if you would ever ask someone that you hardly knew to buy you a new phone, get a little perspective and then block him, you don’t have to explain a single thing.

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 15:35

BadNomad · 06/10/2022 15:24

Who is going to pay for his visa and plane tickets?

Don't be daft, OP. This is a classic scam. Younger foreign guy flatters older (often lonely) woman. Convinces her they are soulmates. Then the small requests for money start. Then a family emergency will happen, and you'll offer to lend out bigger money. Etc Etc.

will not be giving any money that"s for sure

but i thank everyone for their answers helps alot

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 15:40

TwoMonthsOff · 06/10/2022 12:45

It is a scam but would be interesting to ask what sort of phone he is after, my guess it would be the latest iPhone (or whatever the most expensive phone is currently), it’s a good test (not that you need a test really)

he asked for poco x4 pro 5g

never heard of them

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Untitledsquatboulder · 06/10/2022 15:42

pjani · 06/10/2022 12:38

This is a classic two-way exploitative relationship. Is he younger, quite good looking by chance?

It’s a big fat no from me. The money/power imbalance is very clear.

This. Nasty.

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 15:42

JoanCandy · 06/10/2022 15:33

You’re too nice - don’t let that be a negative, OP, but think about if you would ever ask someone that you hardly knew to buy you a new phone, get a little perspective and then block him, you don’t have to explain a single thing.

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thanks i will

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Highlighta · 06/10/2022 15:46

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 15:40

he asked for poco x4 pro 5g

never heard of them

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😂

Part of the Xiaomi group.

Really good value for money tbh. But you should tell him the old Nokia is what is in your price range. That will cause a sharp about turn I'm sure.

momtoboys · 06/10/2022 15:49

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:40

i am confused he seem so nice as well
so i am defo wary about this i really do not know what to say to him

You do know what to do. BLOCK HIM. Do not speak to him again. This is a set up.

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 16:07

Highlighta · 06/10/2022 15:46

😂

Part of the Xiaomi group.

Really good value for money tbh. But you should tell him the old Nokia is what is in your price range. That will cause a sharp about turn I'm sure.

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😂😂

I will tell him see his reaction then he can get lost

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thenewduchessoflapland · 06/10/2022 16:11

I only know of one person;a good friend of mine who's happily married to a Turkish man;they met whilst my friend was living and working there;she converted to Islam to be married to him and she gets on well with his family as far as I can know.

They lived in Turkey for awhile but moved back to the UK when my friend was pregnant with her eldest.

Someone I use to work with ended up a divorced single mum after marrying a Turkish man she met on holiday.His only interest in their child was that they aided his visa application.He got a visa,left my friend and brought his Turkish wife over.

I'd block this man,you can bet he has multiple women he's spinning the same rubbish to;easy targets.

maddiemookins16mum · 06/10/2022 16:20

Dear God, grow up. Have you never read Take a Break etc?
He couldn’t give two shiny shites about you.
Oh by the way, get a STD test.

PS: ex Holiday Rep here, did two years in Turkey. I have seen this all before.

user1471517095 · 06/10/2022 19:02

A few years ago my sister and I went to Turkey on holiday. We did become friends with a few waiters (and that's 100% what we were - friends) they told us a lot of Turkish men would do anything to get to Britain. And that included Romancing the Tourists.

Watapalava · 06/10/2022 19:05

I can’t imagine why you’d need to ask this question u less you’re like 18? But even my 17 year old would know this was a guy out to fraud you

TwoMonthsOff · 06/10/2022 19:13

@Shirl2022
please let us know how he reacts to being sent a Nokia (I hope it’s a 3210) ! Hehe

TwoMonthsOff · 06/10/2022 19:15

@Shirl2022
I can’t say I don't have ‘disappointed’ face that he didn’t want an iPhone 😭

Zerrin13 · 06/10/2022 21:47

I've been married to a Turk for 20 years.
My advice would be to avoid this user like the plague!

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 23:26

maddiemookins16mum · 06/10/2022 16:20

Dear God, grow up. Have you never read Take a Break etc?
He couldn’t give two shiny shites about you.
Oh by the way, get a STD test.

PS: ex Holiday Rep here, did two years in Turkey. I have seen this all before.

I'm sure you have seen all this before being a holiday rep
But it's my first holiday to Turkey or even abroad in 15 years
Don't need a test done as didn't sleep with him either I've just come out of a 9 year relationship recently hence the holiday

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 23:31

TwoMonthsOff · 06/10/2022 19:13

@Shirl2022
please let us know how he reacts to being sent a Nokia (I hope it’s a 3210) ! Hehe

😂😂that's funny lol

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 23:37

Zerrin13 · 06/10/2022 21:47

I've been married to a Turk for 20 years.
My advice would be to avoid this user like the plague!

Thanks

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 23:39

TwoMonthsOff · 06/10/2022 19:15

@Shirl2022
I can’t say I don't have ‘disappointed’ face that he didn’t want an iPhone 😭

😂😂😂your funny lol

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Carlycat · 07/10/2022 02:23

This has got to be a wind up! Surely no one is this stupid?!

Realityloom · 07/10/2022 03:27

What happens on holiday STAYS on holiday. (Do not exchange numbers with men like this)

What is the point.

allboysherebutme · 07/10/2022 03:58

Scamming Ponce, it's on the television in the mornings age old scam to get your money and get over here, watch the programme and please don't be silly enough to fall for this shite.
Run a mile no matter what he says they will go to any lengths. Change your number.

BitOutOfPractice · 07/10/2022 04:16

And next time you go on holiday with a mate @Shirl2022 don’t dump your mate to go off with some random bloke every day. That’s really not good.

JustKittenAround · 07/10/2022 04:43

Alright you already know to run…

But it would be such a turn off if a man asked me for money or a phone. Like what in the world?!? Too many men in this world to be dealing with this type seriously , I’d throw him back to those who are at his level or worth dealing with his level. I mean why even is he around if he is just going to sponge? Shit is unattractive.

He can get a job and do for himself.

No way I’d be with a man expecting a woman to fund him like that. Just isn’t me. Glad it won’t be you. Why on earth would he even come at you with that weak energy unless he was a scammer with many dummies already on the hook?

glad you got away because you don’t deserve that mess, he is only going to ever provide you words. No actions.

He was fun for your vacation, that’s all. No harm. He just isn’t bringing anything to the table right now. Don’t let this type of man slip his grubby unpracticed paw into your purse.