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Original poster

Met guy on holiday

127 replies

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:36

went on holiday to turkey with my friend wasnt looking for anyone the unexpected happened a met a turkish guy we both hit it off
when i came back he called every night after he finished work ,one night he asked if i could buy him mobile phone as his is no good and send to him ,which he has a smashed screen he said he would pay me back every month as he can not afford to buy out right he also says he has to get a visa to come over as the plan was for him to come and visit me but he says its hard for him to come over because of the visa situation i would have to send invitation for him
i am quite confused whats going on so i ended conversation said i need time tothink i have no idea about turkish men we also chatted about me going to istanbul at christmas to meet up by myself i am not comfortable going by myself i would go with a friend if that was the case any help on this matter would be great

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Original poster
Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 13:18

As soon as he asked for phone i knew it was too good to be true

thats why i ended the conversation with him

confused.com why did he ask me to meet him in Instabul?

some great advice on here though just wanted other opinions as i do not know about turkish men and there ways

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ThirtyThreeTrees · 06/10/2022 13:18

Park the fact you met on holiday and he's Turkish for a minute.

Under what other circumstances, would you think it was good idea to get into a relationship with a man who asked you for gifts/money straight away?

A man you won't see regularly, don't know properly and have little prospect of that changing without marraige which is really putting the cart before the horse.

End it before it starts while there is no loss or pain.

been and done it. · 06/10/2022 13:25

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:40

i am confused he seem so nice as well
so i am defo wary about this i really do not know what to say to him

If he wasn't nice, charming and lovely you wouldn't have been interested would you. Nobody wants to feel like they've been played but you have to be realistic and take all the good advice on here already given. You've been sensible and not sent him any money or phones..you know he's scamming you. Block and move on.

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 13:26

theemmadilemma · 06/10/2022 13:16

oh wow that opened my eyes
thanks

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fairgame84 · 06/10/2022 13:31

Block and delete.
He is a scammer. He's already asking you to buy him a phone and help him with a visit visa and you've only met once!
He is love bombing you so you don't leave him.

Read up on visa scammers.
I'm married to a Tunisian and visa geezers are rife from Tunisia. Turks use similar methods to Tunisians. There is a website dedicated to Tunisian scammers Tunisianloverats.com and there will probably be one for Turks as well.

isthismylifenow · 06/10/2022 13:32

Of course it's a scam. Really now. It couldn't be more obvious.

YRGAM · 06/10/2022 13:39

Do not do it! Block him!

fairgame84 · 06/10/2022 13:40

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 13:18

As soon as he asked for phone i knew it was too good to be true

thats why i ended the conversation with him

confused.com why did he ask me to meet him in Instabul?

some great advice on here though just wanted other opinions as i do not know about turkish men and there ways

Because he can't get a visit visa to the uk. It's incredibly difficult to get one. So the long game is you keep visiting him, you both fall madly in love. You get married in Turkey and apply for a spouse visa to the uk that will cost you thousands. He does his 5 years with you and then leaves you for a younger woman because he has no use for you anymore.

Frith2013 · 06/10/2022 13:41

Don't be daft.

Also, the full stop key seems to be broken on your phone.

Hoppinggreen · 06/10/2022 13:42

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:47

he is younger but ok looking
was just a instant attraction

Of course it was

TwoMonthsOff · 06/10/2022 13:42

@Shirl2022
www.tunisianloverats.com/

check this out as well, there was also a documentary on TV about this at one point it was shocking
i know that is Tunisia but I’m sure the same scams apply

Loachworks · 06/10/2022 13:44

Interesting username Shirl.

Tsort · 06/10/2022 13:45

You surely cannot be serious.

quitelikelyto · 06/10/2022 13:49

Is this a piss take? Surely no one is gullable enough to fall for this?

Mingot · 06/10/2022 13:50

Shirl I bet it was an instant attraction 😎

isthismylifenow · 06/10/2022 14:21

Didn't you mean to say Greece, Shirl?

JorisBonson · 06/10/2022 14:49

What did the wall have to say about it?

Dinkiedoo · 06/10/2022 14:56

Cheeky divil. A real man would never ask for money . bin him

KettrickenSmiled · 06/10/2022 15:05

Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 12:40

i am confused he seem so nice as well
so i am defo wary about this i really do not know what to say to him

Well if he was nasty or even indifferent to you, his scam wouldn't work would it?

Well done on trusting your instincts well enough to post here.
Think about it - would YOU have contacted him, asking for money for a new phone & demanding an invitation to his country?

Of course not. Block him.

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 15:13

I Am not gullible maybe abit vulnerable to say the least

it was me who told him to come to visit here thats when he was explaining to me about visa to research it as im not comfortable going back to turkey visting on my own
and yes i met up with him every day while on holiday for a week i am back home now have chatted everyday , alarm bells rang when he asked yesterday via video chat about phone

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forgotoldusername · 06/10/2022 15:15

@Shirl2022 hey it's your life but once he gets a British passport or visa or whatever and he fleeces you of your money and then disappear, please don't come here to complain. You're an adult right? Listen to the posters on here. If you don't want to listen then be ready to be scammed

Brokenteapot1 · 06/10/2022 15:17

Are you honestly telling me you’ve never read an issue of Take a Break..

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Shirl2022 · 06/10/2022 15:24

ThirtyThreeTrees · 06/10/2022 13:18

Park the fact you met on holiday and he's Turkish for a minute.

Under what other circumstances, would you think it was good idea to get into a relationship with a man who asked you for gifts/money straight away?

A man you won't see regularly, don't know properly and have little prospect of that changing without marraige which is really putting the cart before the horse.

End it before it starts while there is no loss or pain.

i hear that

too good to be true
i know that i wont be sending him nothing

i can offer him a old nokia that is worth nothing see hat his reaction is before i tell him to get lost 😂

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BadNomad · 06/10/2022 15:24

Who is going to pay for his visa and plane tickets?

Don't be daft, OP. This is a classic scam. Younger foreign guy flatters older (often lonely) woman. Convinces her they are soulmates. Then the small requests for money start. Then a family emergency will happen, and you'll offer to lend out bigger money. Etc Etc.