Hi all, I posted a few weeks ago about a problem I have. Long story short….. my partner of 8 months has been messaging an ‘old friend’. When we started dating he’d told me about her and said he’d told her we were going on a date and she’d stopped messaging him. Obviously I didn’t read much into it as we’d only started dating. The other week I noticed her pop up in a message. I did a really stupid thing and I snooped! In no way am I proud and I really don’t need to be told that it was wrong I know it was! So once I’d done that I couldn’t confront him without admitting what I’d done. Thing is it’s eating me up. The messages are kinda ‘friendly’ - she lives on another continent!! In the grand scheme of things since February there hasn’t been that many but it’s mainly catch up type messages, he’s telling her all about his divorce and how he wants to move back to his home town (where I am but im only mentioned once!). I was reminiscing and reading back thru OUR messages and I came across when he mentioned her and he said how she’d blanked him when he said he was dating me and how he wasn’t bothered and how she was a bit ‘bonkers’ anyway. Fast forward to now and I’m thinking well why hasn’t he told me he’s been messaging her periodically throughout our relationship. There’s a message for him one time telling her he’s coming back from a gig drunk and he was on the train. Another one saying ‘I love you too you’re one of my oldest friends’ …… how do I bring it up without admitting I snooped?? The last message was two weeks ago so they’re not in constant contact? I’m on a run of shifts, we live 50 mile apart at the min and I’m consumed with worry that he’s messaging her!!!