Hello all,
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this?
So my partner and I have been together 5 years and had some issues lately. I found out he had cheated early on in the relationship (6 women I know of). We never resolved this as he says I'm anxious and mentally ill. I've basically tried to forget it. If anything related to the hurt/cheating comes up he says "stop. You're making me angry, don't talk about it". I basically get told it's my issue and I need to get over it because it's all my anxiety.
Anyway, I don't really want to focus on the cheating aspect. It's back story as to why we are having issues and the fact that if this gets brought up, he almost hates me and wants to emotionally attack.
Since this time, I've noticed that if we have a falling out and have sex after, he can be quite rough. I almost feel he wants to hurt me. For instance (I'm sorry tmi) but if using his fingers he is very forceful. Several times I've bled. We argued yesterday; well not an argument as such but I hadn't seen him all weekend and when he came in, he didn't say hello and went straight to pwatch TV in his games room. I said i felt a bit hurt he didn't even say hello and he basically told me that
I'm miserable, causing issues, need help etc.
We had sex today and I've been bleeding from my anus.
Is it normal to get a bit rough after an argument? Do you think he's taking nager out on me?