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[Cakeycrumbz]

Found a guy I love talking to. Connected so well..talk everyday..he makes me laugh. He's easy to say anything to. Good looking in photos. Really clicked and then a mutual friend told me he smiles with his mouth closed because he's got teeth missing at the top at the front.

I managed to find a video of him on fb and can see the shape of his mouth isn't right and yep he's got teeth missing. It's completely put me off and I'm gutted as in every other way he's wonderful

Has anyone else ever had this happen? Or something else?

I don't know how to wriggle back out the situation as I was pretty much ready to meet him. Feel so terrible. What can I possibly say to him?

You need to ask about the teeth, OP! You obviously get on really well so just ask!! Everyone has a story, like they have stories about their scars, bumps and bruises!
when I met my DH, he had lost a top tooth (off centre) playing rugby as a youngster but as he had grown up, the gap was small and lovely and quirky. Our DS
lost his front top 2, going over the bike handle bars, in his early teens, and had them crowned after his face stopped growing. they are perfect now.
I banged heads with Ddog in the Spring and chipped one of my top front ones, had it fixed a month ago.
Theres always a story, just ask the poor guy!!

To add to my post….

None of us are poor, drug-addled, homeless or have a violent past!!

Be kind…🤷‍♀️

you’re investing far too much in a man you haven’t even met! you might not even fancy each other in person

DD was invited on holiday with her friend’s family and got a huge shock when the Dad wandered into the kitchen the first morning ( they’d rented an apartment) with his front teeth missing! Turns out he’d had an accident several years prior and knocked them out. He wears a denture most of the time.

If this is the main thing putting you off, OP, meet him and find out more. He might be saving up for a denture or implants.

I do understand what you mean though, OP. One of neighbors is good-looking great from a distance, but he’s got a missing tooth (might be two actually) and it’s abit scary when he smiles. 😂 I’m guessing there must be a medical reason why he hasn’t fixed them, because he’s got a good job and they spend tons of money on their house and garden, their landscaping alone would pay for a tooth! Perhaps implants don’t work for him.

One of my neighbors

I wouldn’t date a man with no or even bad teeth. A lovely smile is one of the first things we are attracted to in a person. Doesn’t make you shallow to have standards 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don't waste his time any further than you have already. He is far better off with someone who looks past his physical imperfections and likes him for who he is. Go find someone with teeth that meet your standard.

It's not that he has teeth missing it's that he hasn't done anything about it . And no I wouldn't go near someone with missing teeth .

Please don't waste your time. You can have your teeth knocked out for many reasons but there are implants there and even you can get it done on the NHS. No excuses. Next please

Imagine how you'll feel if he meets you and say he doesnt fancy you because of your ....dodgy hair, big thighs, cellulite, big nose or whatever your weak spot is. At least his teeth can be fixed some things cant be.

While you're on the phone why not casually say you have to go to the dentist, you hate it etc and see if he elaborates.

Was watching Johnny Depp recently in an interview , beautiful man in his day, maybe not so much now, but he hasnt got the best set of gnashers.

My work colleague had 4 teeth removed as part of her oral cancer treatment , she is well but has to wait a period of time prior to being fitted for cosmetic reasons

I understand this changes someone's appearance but please stop with the " poor , homeless, violent , cba "

Give him a chance ? I'd rather have a decent bloke who may have a reason for this current state than an arsehole with tippex Turkey nashers

I have a wonky bottom tooth thats got worse with time but I'm not poor but also nit able to afford the £2000 for braces to rectify it
My cousin had missing teeth due to medical condition and whilst awaiting inplants had gaps for months , now has perfect teeth
Dh has lost a couple of teeth again medical reasons and not suitable for a bridge and false nhs dentures are rubbish so again saving and waiting in a private denture , his aren't front so not do bad but it does bother him as well

@forgotoldusername implants on NHS please let me know where ?

Wow some of these replies have made me feel like total shit. I have damaged teeth because I was in a horrific car accident. Fixing them kind of slips to the bottom of the priority list when you’re trying to, you know, not die. Hopefully the posters who think I must be a troubled criminal never have to go through something like that.

Oh and you can’t get implants on the NHS actually and an implant is thousands of pounds and is a LONG process, they can’t just pop one in.

OP You shouldn’t get so emotionally invested In someone you’ve never met. Maybe he won’t like your big fat arse when you meet or whatever.

He may be part way through a course of treatment that needs his gums to heal.
Many many health conditions cause tooth loss. Or he could have been in a car accident or punched.
You have no idea.
One day he can get implants/ dentures and he'll still be the same lovely guy, but he'll be with someone else.
(If it was a man saying any of what you've all said about a woman's looks you'd all be jumping to her defence.)

Correct attitude! 😊

Good grief
Or
Rugby player/ been in an accident/ punched whilst protecting his mum/ anything other than this nasty judgemental attitude.

Must be awesome to be as perfect as you!!

Oh dear that would definitely put me off completely, and I say this as someone missing two important teeth (not front but near front - they just never came through!) I’ve sorted it though but wouldn’t be seen dead with said teeth missing!
I think you should ask him.

I think ask him or meet in person. Could be a simple explanation and he's getting them fixed.

Wow, the nerve died in one of my one of my front teeth due to a sports accident, I’m glad I had the money to pay for root canal treatment now

I have dentures for my top middle and tooth next to it as I had low blood pressure during my first pregnancy, got up too fast and face planted the floor. My dentures weren't ready for around 3 weeks, of which I spent talking through my hand as I was so embarrassed.

I'd personally give him a chance to tell his story, if everything else fits.

I wonder if he has a dental phobia. Just no reason in this day and age to have this type of tooth problem.

Thing is, if it ruins the attraction, it ruins the attraction. You can't help it so no point feeling bad.

If you're not going to want to see him with his teeth like this, then why not just ask him to get them sorted? What's to lose?

Talk to him about it. You've nothing to lose as you don't fancy him anyway when he looks like this. You may be able to help him re implants etc and he regains fanciability