AIBU to be upset that boyfriend looked at pic of girl in bikini while next to me

[MsPottsOrNot]

AIBU to be upset that my boyfriend was looking at a photo of a random girl in a bikini while he was next to me in bed, where I could clearly see his screen?

I questioned him and he immediately got defensive and said I must be upset because I'm on my period!

I don’t care what he looks at when he's alone, but I don't want to see him looking at slim blonde girls in bikinis when I'm right there... it seems disrespectful to me 🤷

AIBU?

Yanbu; I’d dump him for the period comment

Yes!!!

I'd dump him for the on your period comment alone. I wouldn't want to be with a man with such misogynistic views.

Lusting after other women on screen.
Potential porn addict.

Its actually mental the amount of people that come on mn saying their partner prioritises looking at porn/titillating images.

Depends. Friend of his on holiday and pic came up on news feed. No problem. If he’s gone looking for it, not so great.

But to me, the period comment is a far far bigger issue.

🤔dump

Massively disrespectful. And then to blame you for being upset by it.
Prick.
He obviously looks at this stuff regularly i'd say, to get the point of needing to look at it whether you are there or not. And thinking he has every right to and you're the unreasonable one for being upset by it.

I would be telling him to take his bikini images and fuck off if that's his attitude.

I must be upset because I'm on my period! I'd lose him for this. Seriously. You can do better.

Period comment is a dumpable offence. Reeks of misogyny. The same kind of man who calls women 'hysterical' when in the same situation they'd call a man angry, frustrated or upset.

Really? You have never clicked on a friend's holiday pics etc?

For me it depends what he was looking at.

he is messing with your head.
he looks at pic on purpose to agitate you
and then blame you for being paranoid.
definitely dump him.

Look at pictures of male fitness models, buff actors, porn actors etc next to him.

There are usually a lot of male fitness model pics with only tight boxers or tastefully naked.

If he objects in any way, ask him if he's on his period.

Eh? How on earth can you come to that conclusion.were you in bed with them?

The priod comment was well out of line and worth leaving him for

As the for the pic, I'm goign to break ranks slightly and say this depends. Did he specifically look up this girl or for girls in bikins? Or was it that he was scrolling through instagram and it just kind of popped up becauase he likes cars or something and she was next to a Ferrari?

He is immature (the period comment) and disrespectful (looking at women online when you are sanding next to him).

Dump him.

''@maddy68 Really? You have never clicked on a friend's holiday pics etc? For me it depends what he was looking at.''

Have you even bothered reading the OP's post because you tried to justify this behaviour? it was a pic of a random woman. Not a friend's day out at the beach...

I’d be more offended at the period comment - what rubbish - next time open up your computer and look at fit men

Here's something to get you started;

www.mancrushes.com/sites/default/files/ruben-cortada-eyes-3.jpg

This won't stop your bf being a fkg wanker though.
You don't sleaze over the opposite sex (or same sex if you're gay/bi) next to your partner and you don't accuse then of being in their period when they are naturally uncomfortable.

what a silly post.
i dont need to be in bed with them to see this.
it is so obvious.

Believe it or not, there are plenty of men who are just self absorbed, entitled, arrogant and too shit at controlling their sleazing impulses to do this without actually intending some psychological warfare or negging.

Depends really, I often get swimsuit ads as part of Mumsnet. Also, ads for medical uniforms on people who look like they are actually stripograms. So, depends how the ad popped up.
Would it have been okay if it was a fat brunette in a bikini?

This. And it usually escalates. You'd be better off without him.

Dump for the period comment.

What's wrong with a pic of someone in a bikini?

He's out of order with the period comment.

The period comment is a dick move but someone in their bikini, nah couldn’t get worked up , I look at Insta and Facebook and often see holiday snaps etc.

As others have said, the bikini situation is debatable. The period comment is unacceptable. I would dump over this.