Do you need to romance in a relationship

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So im a young man who has never been in a relationship before, Im attracted to women sexually and I do want my own kids someday but I have never had a crush or viewed women in a romantic way. I never want to get married, Romantic gestures make me cringe and even going out on fancy dates isnt for me. Instead of going out to a fancy restraunt id rather order a chinese, watch some netflix and then have some sex straight after lol.

Im not gay or anything, Im very attracted to women sexually and I always eye them up thinking how they would look naked but romantically or emotionally I've never really been into them that way.

I wouldnt care if my wife/girlfriend wanted to leave me because at the end of the day A woman doesnt belong to me, Im more interested in raising kids and being a father than being in a romantic relationship although I dont want my kids growing up without a mother figure.

If I had kids of my own and my wife left me then I wouldnt look for another relationship ever again, id be happy enough just raising my kids and then gettng the odd FWB to fufil my sexual needs.

Is romance important for women?

Everyone's different but generally yes

Why do you even care if you're only interested in the raising kids aspect, wouldn't care if your future wife left you and wouldn't seek out another relationship afterwards? 🤔

How can you be attached to women yet never had a crush or romantic feeling toward one?

are you basically saying you just want something to fuck and bare a child for you?

It's the repeated use of "my own kids" that got my attention. Not "our own, kids". So would you be willing to do as much to look after them in this fantasy setup, (which would sound quite miserablefor a lot of women, so good luck finding it)? Equal childcare? Or, if they are "yours", maybe you'd like to raise them yourself too? That could work 😂

@KiraKiraHikaru because there is a difference between "romantic" attraction and "sexual" attraction, Someone who is asexual can be straight but not find anyone sexually attractive.

You also have bisexuals that can be sexually attracted to one gender but romantically attracted to the other.

Im straight, I have no interest in men and I do have sexual thoughts of women but I've never really viewed them in a romantic way.

I know this does sound wrong but the only reason why I put myself out there on the dating scene is because I want to find a woman who I can have kids with. I've never been interested in getting married or finding love, Once I have my kids then if she wants to then she can leave or if she stops having sex then I'll just break up with her.

By the way I have plenty of women friends, Its just that Im not into the romantically and I have no desire to get married

So my point stands. You want something you can impregnate and fuck.

Good luck trying to find any woman prepared to be used as an incubator by a selfish man who doesn’t give a shit about her. What are you offering in exchange for this miserable life?

But then many women date men even tho they aint sexually attracted to them, are they selfish?

Do they?

When you said "I dont want my kids growing up without a mother figure", you realise that if you break up the mother will likely get 50% custody? She isn't just going to drop down dead in the event of a split.

But they wouldn't just be your kids, would they? You sound as though you think that if the mother of your children left you, she'd just waltz off into the sunset and leave you and the children to it. That is extremely unlikely.

As for the romance thing... it sounds as if you think that love/emotional attachment and being romantic are the same thing, but they aren't at all. Not all women are into romantic, hearts-and-flowers-type stuff (I'm not!), but that doesn't mean they want to get into a relationship with someone who doesn't love them. Most women (and indeed most people) in a relationship who want to start a family want love, companionship, closeness etc.

Pity the poor woman that falls for you. If you feel that way why don't you look into adoption?

@Fairislefandango yeah I get what your saying, maybe I might find a woman some day who I actually have feelings for and who I connect with but it has not happend yet.

I don't think someone so cold and emotionless is a strong candidate to be an adoptive single parent. Kids who can't stay with their birth parents for whatever reason need more emotional intelligence and affection, not less. They are not a consolation prize.

@Mollyplop999 nothing against adoption but I want my own kids, I know women can become single parents by choice but for a man to do that its alot more harder and costly. Surrogacy costs Alot and many clinics dont offer it to single men, you also have to take into consideration that at any time a woman can just abort the baby (cause its her body and her choice) or a miscarraige can happen.

Women on the other hand can just go to a sperm donation clinic or even get a random man to get her pregnant.

OP, is it possible your views of women have been warped by porn consumption?

You basically want a hot woman to shag and give you kids - literally nothing deeper than that. Not surprising you've not had a relationship. With that complete and utter shallowness and an apparent lack of empathy I wouldn't have you down as 'aromantic' or any bollocks like that, I'd have you down as a possible narcissist.

What part of raising your children particularly appeals to you? It is very hard slog and often thankless, particularly as a potential single father?

OP, is it possible your views of women have been warped by porn consumption?

Or incel websites?

@Choconut well yeah your right lol.

Romantic and sexual attraction are teo different things.

OP, sounds like you’re aromantic - have you heard of it. Google it if you haven’t.

@DropOfffArtiste well I use to watch porn but not anymore. Just because your only sexually attracted to women doesnt mean that you've been brainwashed by porn. The other day I seen a post on reddit from a bisexual woman who is only sexually attracted to women, has she been brainwashed by porn as well?

Im not saying I cant fall in love with a woman but I have never had a crush or had any desire to take a woman out on dates. I do have desire to have sex with women tho

I don’t think this is that odd.

And yeag sex based stereotyping isin’t very nice, but most men seem to just want a good looking woman to fuck and take care of them.
Sure, they say the ”love” the women their with, but c’mon!
I don’t think that’s unusual at all.

@YouAreNotBatman lol I can take care of myself although yeah I do value a womans looks, im very visual.