Do you need to romance in a relationship

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So im a young man who has never been in a relationship before, Im attracted to women sexually and I do want my own kids someday but I have never had a crush or viewed women in a romantic way. I never want to get married, Romantic gestures make me cringe and even going out on fancy dates isnt for me. Instead of going out to a fancy restraunt id rather order a chinese, watch some netflix and then have some sex straight after lol.

Im not gay or anything, Im very attracted to women sexually and I always eye them up thinking how they would look naked but romantically or emotionally I've never really been into them that way.

I wouldnt care if my wife/girlfriend wanted to leave me because at the end of the day A woman doesnt belong to me, Im more interested in raising kids and being a father than being in a romantic relationship although I dont want my kids growing up without a mother figure.

If I had kids of my own and my wife left me then I wouldnt look for another relationship ever again, id be happy enough just raising my kids and then gettng the odd FWB to fufil my sexual needs.

Wtf have I read

you need to step away from the porn and Reddit sub forums.

women do approach men, women do propose it is 2022 not 1950 plus if ALL women where bi or lesbians, men would be obsolete in society so your logic is well……

plus don’t adopt another human or even another animal as that’s just cruel as you have no emotions.

You do realise that if the gf/wife leaves the kids leave with her. So your fantasy world of having kids and being a dad isn't going to work. You're looking at being a part time dad, seeing them every other weekend - so twice a month and maybe a weekday if your lucky.

This poster has to be a troll surely? It all sounds like a total wind up.

Sounds like an alpha male wannabe...

Yeah, this is your biggest issue. I'm sorry you have received some harsh replies, but I really think your first step is to remember that women are people too, who want to have good conversation, have fun and form friendships and relationships just like you do. In the kindest way possible I don't think you're ready for a relationship quite yet, you may be better off expanding your social circle to include women if you can.

I don't think it's a wind up. Plenty of men, particularly younger men who haven't really formed friendships with women outside of their families, think like this. Most grow out of this way of thinking once they actually interact with women

Are you Lee Stovin?

I’m sure it’s a windup, or a Reddit incel? I mean… sounds like something out of 1876.

WTF am I reading?

At first I thought, awww he needs help being romantic, but as it went on, I think you may actually need locking up.

You know women are actually people right? Not just something put on the planet for men to fuck and produce children?

You realise that paying prostitutes is basically just paying to rape someone? Not that I actually think you would care.

And I think your 'research' has a fair few holes. We are not all lesbians, who watch love island and find our husbands unattractive believe it or not.

Please, if you do one thing in this life, let it be not reproducing. Or going anywhere near women for that matter.

I don't know where to start. Where are you getting your 'facts' from??? You have so many weird and just plain wrong ideas, it's frightening.

Women are human beings just the same as men. We are just as capable of earning money, having hobbies and interests, enjoying sex, looking after ourselves, being intelligent, wanting children / not wanting children, wanting marriage / not wanting marriage. Just the same as men are.

We aren't all one homogenous group who are a 'type'. Most women don't relate to the women on love island. Most women (none I know) are fixated on make up and nails.

Those women who fancy men (which is most) fancy men. They want to have sex with men. But here's the thing - they only want to have sex with men who respect them as an equal. A man who is looking for someone to have his children then discard - well he isn't going to get anywhere.

Unless you get rid of some of your peculiar ideas of what women are, and start to see women as your equal, who deserve your respect, you won't be open to a good relationship. These children you want - wouldn't you rather they were brought up with two parents who love each other and respect each other? Would you yourself rather have a happy, fulfilling, mutually supportive relationship?

If at the end of the day you decide all you want a woman for is some sex and to have children, you need to be absolutely honest with any prospective girlfriend so she knows what she's getting in to. (And anyone with any sense at all will run like the wind).

Being 6'2 and having broad shoulders means fuck all.

IDK, I mean it's nice to meet a guy that's ok looking (though maybe OP has a face in keeping with his personality.)

But I hope most women would soon see him for what he is and not fall for any looks he might have.

He needs to find a fuckgirl. The kids thing sounds like he has a lack of self knowledge.

Well, there must be a reason why women have never approached or proposed you, don't you think? And it's quite obvious by reading your posts.
Since you have no idea what women want/think, perhaps you should keep your opinions to yourself or share them with your mates.

I’m going to go into a men’s forum and state that I have no romantic feelings for men, they’re all gay or bisexual but despite that I’m looking for a sperm donor I can divorce once I get the kids.

i can hear them cheering me already.

Yeah, he’d probably be not short of offers on Tinder to be fair.

Actually getting anyone to stick around beyond a few dates, let alone bear him kids, might be more of a challenge mind…

totally emotionally illiterate -never read such bollocks in my entire life

I don't know what you think romance is, because what you are saying is you want all of the perks of a relationship without putting in any of the work. I have been married 16 years. DH isn't a "grand gestures" kind of man, but the small, thoughtful things he does are romantic and thoughtful and the glue in the relationship. I would never have had children with a man that couldn't show the effort and warmth to build a relationship.

If you want to go through life only having sex and not a relationship, that is your choice. I can't see lines of women forming to have a child with you though. If you can't commit the time and effort into a relationship, how do you hope to commit the time and effort to have a child?