Would you still date someone if you hated their voice?!

[CapturedLeprechaun]

I've been messaging a man for almost a week, due to meet this weekend. His profile pics are attractive. He has excellent communication skills and seems nice.

But he just voicenoted me, and has a voice like David Beckham. Sort of high pitched and sounds like has no brain cells there (even though his written chat is excellent).

My vagina shrivelled up when I heard the voicenote. I don't think I can go on a date with him. Would you cancel a date over something so petty?!

Yep

I'm afraid I would. Voices can be very seductive - or not! Look at the silent movie stars whose careers went down the drain once "talkies" started.

No, give him the benefit of a date at least. If by the end you’re still cringing then decline a 2nd date.

Yep. Total dealbreaker.

It would be a deal breaker for me too. I just couldn’t listen to them with any empathy if I hated their voice!

No don’t cancel, meet and see if it bothers you in person. I dated someone with a voice that I don’t like but the words he used, his conversation and his physical ability to make me feel good (not anything sex related) overrode the voice. You’ll know after a date or two how you feel and that’s got to be better than wondering what if! I’ve just met another guy who, when we met, sounds like he’s from the ghetto (actually he basically is 😆) and I still really like him! The one before I didn’t even think was very attractive at first but it’s true that personality wins and I was still nervous about how I came across with both!!! Good luck!

I might give him he benefit of the doubt for one date, in case nerves had made him squeaky.

Don't waste his time

I once dated someone who sounded like Alan partridge (thankfully the only similarity). Though I e didn't split for this reason- I kept all phone calls to the point!

If your vagina shrivelled up, I don't think there's any coming back from that. I wouldn't bother meeting him.

😂

I might give him he benefit of the doubt for one date, in case nerves had made him squeaky.

Yep was just going to say, give one chance just incase it was nerves or perhaps a phone call first?

This

I've had my ovaries shrivel a couple of times over this.

No, couldn’t get past this. Also couldn’t be with someone with a brummie or northern accent- I’m nd and can’t relax with these accents for some reason (not trying to be offensive!). Love a nice low Irish or SA male voice. I have no idea I’m the way I am!

Oh, and as a taller lady with erm, a larger frame, I also would look ridiculous with a short skinny man.

If he left you a voice note on WhatsApp then completely disregard what he sounds like as WhatsApp has a tendency to make the most baritone voice sound like they've been sucking on helium.

I had someone leave me a voice note and he sounded like the Henry's Cat narrator.
Fanny definitely stopped galloping....

Would have to hear his voice in person. Apps have the ability to distort badly.

But if you still feel bleuuh, would walk away.

Oh god. I listened to it a few times and it gets worse. It's like.... equal parts nasally and also high pitched?!

The date is near him for a variety of reasons (my suggestion - works best for me), but it's almost an hour away and I can't be bothered with the general date effort/expense if I know I can't have sex with him without wanting to throw up in my own mouth.

So... maybe video call tonight to judge it, then just cancel if I'm not feeling it?!

Yes, definitely. Total turnoff.

Oh god. I listened to it a few times and it gets worse. It's like.... equal parts nasally and also high pitched?!
Do yourself a favour, seriously 😁

Gahhh.

Honestly - he ticks so many boxes.

Early 40s, no kids, good job, own home, attractive, smart, emotionally intelligent, good communication.

I was thinking "why are you single?!" but I think it's the voice. Joe Pasquale on helium.

I'd go on the date - voicenotes can make voices sound odd.

Total dealbreaker. Voice and accent are really important to me.

I'm not sure. Years ago, I sat near a woman on another team at work whom I didn't know at all, and she had a voice that really grated on me - like nails down a blackboard.

She was later moved into my team and I got to know her and found she was a really nice person, and it suddenly dawned on me that I no longer found her voice annoying. So I think you can get used to these things, or learn to tolerate them in people you like.