Am I crazy or is he bullshitting me

[Norwolf]

I am currently away at my boyfriends house/country. All has been going well, we even went for some ring shopping as he said he wanted to get a feel of what it is i liked.

Anyway yesterday I asked him if i could see his phone, we had taken some pictures of some rings earlier and I wanted to revisit them. This turned into a complete disaster. He said no. And I asked him why I can’t have it. His first explanation was that he did not want to have to explain himself. Then he said he had stuff on there that would be misinterpreted and he doesn’t want me to see that.

Now this is a red flag to me because it’s letting me know that I cannot trust him, but he insists that it’s nothing and that he loves me and no one else matters. I am soo heartbroken because I really thought the world of him, but it’s looking like I will have to cut ties with this man. Am I over reacting? Going crazy to have doubt about him?

Wow! Game over

good for you. I don’t blame you for leaving early

you owe him nothing. What a total tool he is.

huge hug for you- I know we’re all so sorry you’ve had to go through this

I think this is worth repeating...!

I'm sorry. Hope you're okay.
The handing the phone over after everything has been deleted would send me over the edge. My five year old could see through that.

Seems like a lucky escape in the long run and even if it doesn't feel it now, fortuitous it happened before you moved country.

@Norwolf Sounds like you have handled everything marvelously! Are you still at his home? Think I'd be checking into the airport hotel for the last night!

Phew thank goodness you're getting away.
I had an American bf once. He was an absolute arse. Not saying they all are though 😉

Hi Norwolf - I've been thinking of you and hoping you are OK.

I have recently split up with my husband of 25 years and if I have one advice to give you it is to trust your gut instinct. Looking back, I can see so many occasions where I should have trust mine and run away even before I got married but especially after, and I did not. The more time goes on the harder it gets to leave especially if you have kids. My ex always had a password on his phone and I never did. Once a notification appeared on my phone about a credit card statement or something and he pointed it out how I should “hide” this. My own husband!!!

I know that all couples have different rules when it comes to passwords and sharing phones and so what matters is not what we think, but what you think.
If you are asking me however, this is very strange.Would definitely not moving out of the country for this relationship.

I hope you got home safely op.

No go with your gut. I ended up going ahead and getting married after finding out he had been messaging other women. Nothing changed. Even when I fell pregnant soon after getting married. If he's messaging about now then he can't be trusted.