This women is obsessed with me and my life ! I'm terrified.

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I'm absolutely boiling over with rage and emotion right now!
My ex husband had an affair with OW and we consequently divorced. OW is from a very poor part of the world and was keen to meet a western man (yes, one of those stories and yes, she did immediately get pregnant and yes, she wanted to be very involved in our financial resolution after 28 years of marriage...).
Anyway for the last 5 years, she was been living a very nice life with my ex and has lived all over the world. During that time, she has been completely obsessed with me despite her seemingly having won the jackpot. She's cyber bullied me, sent vile emails, rung me, superimposed photos of me onto pigs etc and generally broke me so much that my hair dropped out and I was very ill for a long time. The abuse was horrific. She apparently is never settled or happy and they have moved from New Zealand to Paris, to the US and then to the UK (about 2 hours away from me).
My 3 kids are adults and ex husband has had very little to do with them over the last few years and they pretty much just see him as a distant uncle.
NOW... I hear they are moving less than 2 miles down my road !!! EX has told one of our kids that it's 'to see them more' which i know is complete and utter rubbish.
My issue is that I'm well known in this area and work very hard in my job which has earnt me a good reputation and I'm terrified that she is going to try and fuck up the life I've spent so hard to rebuild for myself and the kids.
I cannot help feeling really creeped out by this news and a little scared.
What would you do?

Have you ever reported any of this previous harassment to the police?

Start documenting all of it if you haven't already. Screenshots of messages, keep a diary dates times events. So if you need help and protection in the future you have the evidence to support this. Not much else you can, except for telling everyone you know and meet what you have been through, and that they are moving in and you are extremely worried about it - forewarned is forearmed.

The first sign of her old behaviour, call police.
She sounds unhinged

Agree with @Surtsey - I would report her to the police. Say that now they’re moving nearby, you’re very scared of what she might do. She’s clearly unhinged.

This.

Totally report her to the police! She sounds unbalanced 😕 And keep reporting everything she does/emails/texts straight to the police.. Also keep a diary of everything that happens.. Total nutter!

Do you have any evidence of previous harassment such as emails etc. I wonder if you do if you could apply for an order (restraining order? ) to prevent her from coming near you or communicating with you? Then at least if she does it’ll be a legal issue straight away.

What an absolute cow. Can your ex not make her stop? What do your DCs say? Can they not exert some pressure to make sure she doesn't bother you?

So sorry for what you've gone through as the affair and divorce must have been horrendous after such a long marriage, to then have to deal with her deranged behaviour on top.

I have fortunately kept most of the evidence and also told police friends. In fact, many people know my story as it's so bizarre.
I just feel sick that I'm going to have to keep looking over my shoulder in an area which I call home and feel safe in.
I'm seriously triggered by the news I've heard today and I'm not sure I can take the drama again.

Ex is very weak and the OW manipulates him. He and I also have no contact.

Stalking is a crime OP. I would call 111 right now and talk to the police about the harrassment you've suffered over the years at the hands of this woman and how incredibly worried you are about them moving down the road. You can't stop living where they want to, but you can get advice about how to protect yourself in the future. Do you have evidence of her previous abuse? If so, gather it all together and present it to the police. They take stalking (cyber or otherwise) very seriously these days.

Police non-emergency number is 101 - sorry! 111 is the NHS 🙄

OP it’s relatively inexpensive to install CCTV around your home - I would do this before she arrives.

I agree with others, get ahead of the game. Make sure everyone you work with etc is aware as well as friends and aquaintences.

call the police and log the harassment as moving in close by is a continuation of this, then is she causes trouble when she arrives, you have an open case to press ahead with. It won’t be the first the police formally hear of it and it can be resolved more quickly.

it must be heart wrenching but know you are sane, in the right and have built a good life for yourself, the best revenge!

I don't think she will come to my house but my worry is that I'll be bumping into her at my local shops and she's a nutter.
Another example of her weirdness is that she and the ex broke up for a few months and ex dated another woman before getting back with nutter. Nutter then got pregnant and named her child the same name as the lover the ex had has for a few months??! Is that not just the strangest behaviour?

I agree with others. Perhaps you need to formally report the previous harassment to the police now, so they have a record of what she's done in the past. You can then let them know you are worried about it picking up again because she is going to be moving close to you.

Then, as soon as she starts up again, report her immediately. They will already know of the previous harassment, and will be able to deal with it far sooner than if it is a new report.

This woman has caused enough chaos.

I would speak to the police, with the evidence and see if a restraining order is possible.

Document everything also if she kicks off again.

I would adopt a zero tolerance policy. The minute she steps out of line again, straight to the police.

Given how unhinged she appears, I suspect she will be feeling very insecure. After all, her partner is choosing to return to an area closer to his you. He's probably sick to death of her drama at this stage too.

On a positive note, no one will listen to her shit anyway given her character. People will see her for what she is if she even tries anything.

If you have evidence I’d seek advice about what orders you might be able to apply for. You can ask for no contact via text/social media etc.

Thank you for all your comments. I am currently on the phone waiting to connect to 101.

I'd get a restraining order against her. You have enough evidence/reason to have one.

Well done.
a he sounds absolutely batshit. Don’t let her rock your lovely life.

If you have the evidence I would apply for a restraining order now, don’t wait, Make it so they cannot be near you at all, so if you bump into them at the super market then you have the law on your side if anything happens

She is a fucking stalker - treat her like one and start calling her one. Document and report everything. I had one of these trying to destroy my reputation. It has been horrible but over the years people have got sick of her - no one wants to listen to a nut job stalker.

Log every single incident and report to the police. She sounds unhinged and potentially dangerous.
You poor woman. I can't imagine how stressful this is for you.