Keep seeing the same dog walker

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For the past few weeks I've started leaving for work earlier on two specific mornings. My husband leaves for work an hour and a half after I've left.

I know this sounds barking mad but I've noticed on these mornings when I'm leaving, a woman walking her dog up towards our house. I leave at roughly the same time give or take 5 minutes.

Prior to me changing my hours we had passed this woman a handful of times before at the end of the road where we'd stopped to have a quick dog chat. On those times, she always walked straight on after the chat. Now she's turning into our road. Our road isn't busy and doesn't go anywhere particularly nice.

Maybe she fancied a change. It just seems odd to me that I keep seeing her in the same place when I leave. Literally passing our neighbours' house towards ours.

It seemed to start after a morning where I was leaving for work in the car and DH had just taken the dog out and I passed DH and her chatting at the end of the road. Nothing suspicious, just a dog thing where they (the dogs) say hello briefly.

I'm getting vibes but I'm not thinking affair. Reading this back it sounds paranoid I know but something feels off about it. Any advice (short of seeing a shrink)?!

The only thing really that sounds a bit odd, is that you used to bump into her when you walked the dogs, but an hour and a half later in the day? Since you started working earlier she is walking the dog earlier and towards your house. So she has changed her dog walking hours to the time when you leave for work?

Is it possible she walks the dog twice on a morning? so you've only seen her on the later walk until recently when you've been leaving earlier? Don't have a dog so no idea if anyone would actually do that.

What about if you left the house for some reason at the earlier time when you were not starting earlier, and see if shes walking the dog then, as maybe she does it at that time every day anyway.

The fact that you noticed she changed her route after speaking with him could suggest something he said has piqued her interest, although that could be interest in the house.
Yes, the only way to know is to park away from the house and walk back and see if you can still see her walking away from your house.

How are things? Have you done any investigating?

I didn't jump to affair, in fact I thought not affair. There hasn't been anything like name-dropping. Just one odd thing the other day that he commented on how small my knickers were that were hanging out to dry. We've been married years and years and he's only just noticed the size of my underwear?! That concerned me a bit.

I haven't seen the dog walking woman since I posted here.

Maybe she’s on MN 🤔

Yes op.

You're needed elsewhere 😂

😂😂😂😂😂

Maybe she’s taken a new customer near you, and that’s the time on those days she walks certain dogs. That’s the most obvious explanation.

I walk our dog at the same time almost every day. I tend to stick with a route for a bit and then change it and walk a different way for a while. I generally pass the three same people walking their dogs every day so they must do the same. I wouldn't be at all suspicious tbh.

Maybe he's told her it isn't fair on her 🤣🤣🤣

I don't understand so following...

Do that then!!

Is this the woman you keep seeing?

wowjustwow22 · Today 11:52
So I met this man walking my dog a year ago . He also has a dog and both our dogs got on so well we decided to start taking them for regular walks together twice a week . We began texting to meet up and then the meet ups turned to late night meet ups which we just let them play together and we would have a beer and talk.
We both developed feelings for each other and as of the other week he said he was falling in love with me and asked me the same question .
It was such a lovely night . Sitting under the stars and talking . The next two days here the same texting all day then when I got home from our usual walk together I had a text off him which read
Hi ..... I have had a long think about our dog walks and they have to stop . It's going too far now and it's not fair on you . I hope you under stand .
I replied and said im sorry if I have done anything wrong and he replied you have done nothing wrong it's just the right time to stop .
I have deleted his number now but I have not been able to stop thinking what he actually means . I won't be texting him again and if he does text me again I won't be replying .

Haha

Ah I see!

In case anyone is interested, after a massive amount of snooping I found that he had signed up to an online dating company. Briefly. Seems he deleted his profile very soon after setting it up.
From that, I read his profile, could read some of his message notifications, but couldn't read any content of the messages. I then searched women on the same app and lo and behold, found her on there. She's single according to her profile although he had told me she had a partner. There's also a section to put your preference for the other person's relationship status. Hers is set to 'any'.
She initially struck me as a fairly confident woman but I wondered if I was mistaking kookiness for confidence. Her profile reads like a confident woman who has decided she has been single for too long and now wants a partner.
He doesn't know I know any of this.
She is ten years younger than him.
Need to gather my thoughts.
The other threads about dog walkers, etc. are nothing to do with me.

Your gut instinct was right. Something was off. Are you going to tell him about the dating profile?

Oh wow, im sorry OP!

Goodness that’s not good. I hope you’re ok, take some time to think about what you’re going to do next.

I'm so sorry, you are doing well not to have blurted it out until you know more but for me a dating profile would be enough to end the relationship.

Take screenshots.

Wow that's awful, I hope you've screen shot everything you've found. I think you should always trust your gut, it's a lesson I learnt the hard way - although you weren't even thinking affair, only that it was a bit odd. It must be such a shock. Time to start working out what you want and doing what's best for you. I'm so sorry he's a prick.

Wow, talk about spidey senses. Aw op I'm
Really sorry, hope your alright :-(

Hmmmm...so you are thinking he joined the app, saw her on there, and then things have progressed in real life, at least to meeting up?

Him deleting or unjoining the app doesn't seem a sign of anything good...he'd found what he was looking for...

Sorry OP, I'd be so upset.

Gosh, I'm sorry. Sometimes you just know, even subconsciously that your partner is hidjg something. Big hugs :(

Did he use a username on the app - could you search that on Google/Bing to see if he has anything else?