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I’ve just found a messaging app on my DH old phone. I was doing some admin for his business, forwarding a website link from it to my iPad via airdrop and I saw an icon I didn’t recognise next to a woman’s photo. So I went on the app and there’s a conversation thread going back to April 2021! Nothing sexual, but definitely flirty on both sides. In the 30 years we’ve been together, since mobiles became a thing I’ve never checked his phone. She lives in Luxembourg and we’re in the UK. I’ve just found her on Facebook and randomly liked some of her pictures so she will get a notification with my name on. I don’t know her circumstances (married, single) and for me DH is completely out of order. My gut reaction is to add a message onto the thread introducing myself and our adult DC then they both know what I have found. I don’t know how to deal with this, I thought we were happy.