Its not looking good is it?

[notlookingood]

Went on a first date on Sunday. With a guy I matched with on Tinder.

We already knew each other, we had met a few times probably 6 or 7 years ago on nights out and already had each other added on facebook.

I remember back then, we did message over facebook and I remember he asked for my number, but then never text me so nothing happened/progressed.

Years later we match on Tinder and he asked me out for a drink, and we had a nice evening! Chatted for hours, seemed to have a bit in common. He said he didn't know why we lost touch at the time back then. He also threw me a few compliments.

After the date, he text me to say he had a great time, couldn't believe how long we were chatting for and would love to meet again sometime. I said yes I'd be up for that and i'd felt the same. I fell asleep on Sunday night and didn't reply to his last message when I woke up Monday morning (which wasn't too important). But he didn't message me all through Monday or at all yesterday.

My gut is telling me this isn't good? If he was genuinely that interested, he wouldn't not reach out for 2 whole days? Particularly since we matched on Tinder.

I'm now starting to feel upset thinking that maybe I was never good enough which is why he never made the effort those years ago. He did say the reason he is single is because he is picky.

I suppose its worth noting that i've never known him have a girlfriend, although he says he was with someone a few years back for a while but it just fizzled out. He definitely isn't the sort to put it all over facebook anyway as I wasn't aware she existed at the time.

Feeling sad as it was the first date i've been on in a while where I actually want to see him again.

The poor man! He texted last, yet you're accusing him of not being interested enough.

If anyone can throw that accusation around it's him. He may be waiting for you to respond, he may not want to hassle you, he may be busy (it's only 2 days!!).

Please don't play games or expect the man to do all the chasing. It's an old fashioned approach and you won't necessarily end up with the right man. Look out for one who doesn't want to play games and sees you as his equal, not some princess who needs chasing.

Oh for fucks sake get a grip! It's quite obviously YOUR turn to text!

Or don't bother and save him the hassle of the high maintenance later down the line.

I took everyone's advice and sent him a text. He's seen it, but not replied.

Fab.
If he replies, all good. If he doesn't, all good - at least you'll know.

Don't bother with dating game playing - just go for (sane) honesty. It'll save you loads of time, a few headaches and you'll know where you stand.

When did you send it? Give him chance.

He's probably leaving it a bit because you took two days. Text him back quickly when he does message and stop the games. Who can be arsed really.

Good point.

Is this thread even for real.

Don't be surprised if he doesn't text back op.

I agree it's not looking good.

The fact things went cold first time round and now this. I would let him go,

The fact things went cold first time round and now this. I would let him go

and the minor matter of the OP ignoring him for 2 days. I’m not sure I’d reply after that delay either. The polite thing would have been to text on Sunday to let him know she was off to bed.

Exactly this. I would not be rushing to respond if I'd been left hanging for two days.

EH? hes lucky he got a second chance at all considering she gave him her number YEARS ago and he ghosted her lol.

This thread is ridiculous and it’s a shame you took those posters advice OP.

I was in the dating scene over 4 years ago and a man who is interested, WOULD BE texting you to ask about your day etc. The whole, you need to text him first or he is ignoring you because you ignored him is bull. A lot of these women responding most likely have not been in the dating scene for over 10/20 years.

Yrie, true. The more insistent and pushy he is, the more he loves you. See: RomComs

@GreenManalishi
Let’s hope he doesn’t go by that logic then.

No man with self respect is going to keep messaging a woman who doesn’t message back. Except for stalkers.

@safetyfreak

But if she was interested in him she would message him. It’s never been the “man” thing to message or call first after a date in the same way asking a woman out or paying for dinner is. Literally never.

The other thing is a lot of men don’t live on their phones. Some do but many who are interested still won’t get back to you on the same day. Lots of men aren’t phone people.

@Tinaaaaarrrghhh This bloke is not interested. At all. We know this. If you're sitting there wondering, there's your answer.

@GreenManalishi

OP is not interested, she’s left this bloke sitting wondering

He did respond and we are sending texts. He is asking me a lot of questions so you would think he was interested. But the voice in the back of head does think why now and not before?

Have you suggested another date?

He has.

Excellent news, so worrying over nothing then! So when are you seeing him?

You should do him a favour and just let him down. You sound hard to please.

@Pebbledashery Just don't want to be hurt. I wonder why he didn't pursue it back then, makes me wonder is he really that into me. that's all.