Don't want to open the msg from him

[Kitten2]

A guy I was quite casually seeing, but got too hung up on and eventually ended it with, has messaged today.

4 hours ago.

I used to open his messages instantly. But I know this will be a set back for me, whatever it says.

It's ruined my evening because now I'm just thinking about it. I was only just starting to feel happy again.

We were in some kind of casual relationship for 6 months, mostly sexual. But we got on well. He was avoidant and hard to read. I didn't think he'd get back in touch. Maybe it's to tell me he's got an STI. Should I open it?! When should I open it?

I don't want to have to keep checking to see if he's read / replied, if I send a response. I absolutely hate that feeling.

Please don't reply. That's really the best response.

if you ignore him, he will come back again, if you reply no, he will come back, the only way to get rid is to block all social media send emails to spam, and block the phone number.
Classic Nac hoover maneuver, he's bored or lost whoever he's been messing with and is now just looking for his next supply. old or new ... don't matter, this will continue for years if you allow it to.

I agree send back

🤣 Er no thanks!

and block on everything
ypu are worth more than that op!!!!!
Jesus he is a total cretin

Block .

I was hoping for an update . Bit nosy , me !

I would reply with
😂😂😂

delete and block

I agree block. Or send 😂 then block. I've had a few of these turds in my day. Happily married now but between dhs I had a lot of fun. One sounded just like your twunt.

When I say I had fun I didn't let them get to me. They are players. Sad pathetic men constantly wanting their egos stroked.

Reply

'Alice, Alice, Who the fuck is Alice?'

I'm allowed btw as my name is Alice

Why do guys do this?

I’m guessing because they are sat at home thinking ‘I really need a shag, who can I contact?’?

I have just received a message from a guy I dated a while ago asking “hi, how are you?”, I know what will come next, he will ask if I want to come to his, go for a walk or have lunch, probably because he wants a shag, and if I was to go to his and shag him he would vanish again until the next time he was desperate.

Block this guy, tell him you have better things (people) to do 😉.

The only appropriate answer here is, "I would rather stab myself in the eye with a spear of frozen piss".

Come on OP. He's a fucking wrong un. Treat him that way.

If youre feelings weren't involved, I'd answer ~hi, it's fine, I'm busy too, I'll text when I'm free

Then forget the whole thing

I bet he knew how you felt and was fine about leaving you hanging, I don't see why you shouldn't do the same. It's not like it's going to break his heart and it brings a tiny bit of power back into your hands. If he answers you again then just ignore it

There are updates but under a different name.

No response is a response.

Indeed it does. I left a message read and unreplied to in 2007 (cheating sh!t) He was still trying to contact me 10 years later. I've now blocked almost all avenues and that's a fit punishment. I haven't thought about him in years, until random things remind me.

FYI I know he has zero interest in how I feel, it's all about having no power.

Cheeky sod, he clearly just sees you as an easy shag. Ignore and block.

@ThePollutedShadesOfPemberley "I'd rather stab myself in the eye with a spear of frozen piss" will forever be my favourite comeback 😂

just open and read it...whatever you do after that is totally your decision.

Believe me i've been in that stupid situation for a very long time and everytime i would walk away just to end up back in his bed or mine...it wasn't easy to walk away cause i really had genuine feelings for him but i finally managed to do it. Now we just say hallo and keep small talk. Whatever you decide to do is totally up to you and you alone. Choose what is best for you

You're welcome. I'm full of that sort of thing cos sadly the world is choc full of twats. : )

just open the thing and get it over with stop stressing and worrying over someone who is not even your shit worth...put on your big girl panties and handle your buznis girl

😂im also curious to know wht that message says now😂

oh my gosh...he is so fucked up its not even funny😂what did you reply...just say
hi good thanx and no thanx. Bye
then you delete and block his number everywhere.

She has opened it. Just had a NCF

i took back my power...well i took a little revenge to satisfy myself...i text out of the blue said im horny can we meet had revenge sex then just never text again after that and he started texting thinking we good again and i just kept reading but not replied to his messages...well to be honest i was kinda a little bitchy there because i met someone and then just before i made it offical with the guy i had my revenge on that one then week after that decided to give the guy a fair chance. I know it wasnt the best idea but it was the best thing i could ever have done for me...gave him a taste of his own medicine...most wont agree on my method but hey it worked for me

Thanks @Zonder
Duh ! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’d just reply “Hi Bertie. Thanks for the offer but that ship has sailed now. All the best for the future. Alice”

Then block if you don’t want the stress of wondering if he’ll reply, etc. after that.