Don't want to open the msg from him

[Kitten2]

A guy I was quite casually seeing, but got too hung up on and eventually ended it with, has messaged today.

4 hours ago.

I used to open his messages instantly. But I know this will be a set back for me, whatever it says.

It's ruined my evening because now I'm just thinking about it. I was only just starting to feel happy again.

We were in some kind of casual relationship for 6 months, mostly sexual. But we got on well. He was avoidant and hard to read. I didn't think he'd get back in touch. Maybe it's to tell me he's got an STI. Should I open it?! When should I open it?

I don't want to have to keep checking to see if he's read / replied, if I send a response. I absolutely hate that feeling.

I’d be tempted.
Sounds like you need to block him

Open it then delete and move on

Open it. For my sake. Oh erm I mean yours 😊

Flight mode and read it (so he doesn’t know you have), delete and block. Men like this are nothing short of head fuck. It takes time to get over them and then they are back for an ego stroke. Do not reply.

Oh I can’t stand it. It’s been 6 hours now and we’re none the wiser. I’m going to have to make something up.

I reckon the message said –

“My darling Alice, I can't fight this feeling anymore. I've forgotten what I started fightin' for. And if I have to crawl upon the floor. Come crashing through your door. Baby, I can't fight this feeling anymore. All my love, Bertie x”

And then the OP’s reply will be –

“Alice? Alice? Who the fuck is Alice?”

(you’re all probably far too young to remember those)

Alice lives next door.

😂😂😂😂😂 I remember Alice 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂😂

@Decidualcast oooo great tip!

I remember Alice too!

Actually “Alice doesn’t live here anymore” 🎶 😉

I thought it was Carrie..

Reply who is this? You're not in my contacts 🤔

OP, please put us out of our misery before things end up complicated...

So.. Bertie has messaged the OP by mistake and declared his love for her next door neighbour, Alice, but she’s moved…

That sound about right?

It said

'Hey Alice*,
It's been too long. How are you?
I've had a really busy few weeks with work.
We should meet up over the weekend or next week.
I've been thinking about kissing you..'

Urgh.

Booty call init

It is indeed a booty call.

Have you replied? Or are you going to?

You know what? I'd leave him on read. No blocking - that's a response; no actual response. Just nothing.

My kids reckon that leaving someone on read is just about the lowest thing you can do. So do that.

I have a vivid memory of my dad walking up the back garden singing Alice and I was about 14 and thought who the fuck is Alice?

Dude is a class A walking penis head.

If you don’t want to engage with him you need to delete and block.

I would block him.

DON'T delete without reading. You'll be forever wondering what it said. Read it, leave him on read, don't reply. Take back some power.

Hmmm...leaving a message on read is a reaction in itself, sort of.

Open the message, read it, delete it, check in with your feelings, move on. Don't hand him any power whatsoever.

Get the person you most trust round (if there is one). If not. get a notebook, pen and paper. Make sure you are totally sober and in the best mood you can possibly be. Take as long as you want (days, not hours). Sit down with your notebook. Open the message and immediately write down anything which might be relevant to your immediate health or wellbeing (eg I have an STI, or I left my [naff artist] CD at your place please return it etc) then immediately delete the message and remove it from trash. Then block (in all places) very obviously do not reply whatever the message said - then take his number and remove it from anywhere you might have stored it.

If you have memorised his number and can still memorise it, dedicate as many days as you can to do something else just for you.

After X days act on anything you wrote in the notebook/discussed with friend (i.e get checked up for STIs or destroy his "requested back" items so they are not near you).

Oh, and I repeat, block him from ALL of your social media contacts.
xxxx

@DatingDinosaur

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