Annoying housemate

[Forgiveitall]

I’d absolutely love some advice on this.

for financial reasons I’m living with a housemate and not alone. There is so much good about the situation and it took me a long time to find suitable accommodation. I was living in a hotel for a while and in a rented mobile home for a while after my marriage ended. Accommodation is very expensive and I don’t want to move out. Moving out is not the solution I’m looking for. Believe me, I’ve been through the mill with housing.

but …

my housemate is driving me around the twist! He was so many totally annoying traits. I don’t mind that I do almost all of the cleaning, it’s not that kind of stuff - I can tolerate that, it’s his personality. He’s the argumentative sort, which is the last thing I need after a long day massaging my boss’s ego in a hot kitchen (I’m a chef) & his other extra annoying trait is making a huge deal out of it any time he does anything nice or good for me or anyone else. It almost takes the good out of it that he goes on so much about how great he is for doing something! The third thing is he never ever leaves the house (just to buy food and that’s it!). He has no social or romantic life whatsoever.

so you might wonder what my question even is . Does anyone have any tricks or tips for dealing with this sort of person? I keep busy and I work long hours so I’m not there all that much but he’s my housemate so I still see him more than anyone else and it can be the tiniest annoying text from him that triggers me! Any time i’m there he’s there

tips? Help? Please?

Im going to stop looking at this thread now as I’ve got a lot of great advice and I don’t want to think about it too much more, except when I have to .

thanks to everyone who offered up helpful advice. I really appreciate it

Just to update, I’ve been actively looking when I can but no luck so far. The last person I rang about a room said ‘it’s gone’ before even saying hello on the phone!

I’m at the end of my rope with this guy but hoping I can move out soon. I’ve been staying in friends houses a bit but can’t do that too much either. The hanging out in my room thing just didn’t work as he kept asking me what I was doing up there, he talks to me like as if we are a couple. He asked me yesterday if I’d like to go on holidays with him!

He just sounds really, really awkward. Does he work? Does he need some mental health help? I think praying for him and trying to reframe tolerating him as acts of compassion while also disengaging and spending less time away from the tv would be a help.

Oh I'm so sorry to read that.

I hope something comes up.

Just remember to tell everyone you know and work with that you need a room.

🤞

Thanks @blisstwins he does work … fully remote! I’m trying to pull back as I think he sees me as his main support. He has family nearby which I don’t but he is super lazy about seeing them

thanks @billy1966 ill do that . I’m sure it’ll work out in time. I really hope it will. I feel better in the light of day than I did awake in the Early hours yesterday. I’m also working all night so I suppose I know I’ll be away from the house

Keeping citing exhaustion/stress from work as your reasoning for retiring early.

He may not like it but you can just say there is nothing you can do about it.

Perhaps give 15 minutes bland chat when you come in and saying you are hitting the bed.

Stress to co workers, friends that you are looking forca house.

Are their any houses near your job that you could stick a flyer in about a room because you work nearby?

An older tennis friend of mine took in a lodger via this way. A new young teacher in a school very near her home stuck a flier through her door.

She was having a hip replacement and three spare bedrooms and having someone in the house would be good for the winter.

It has been a great success.