Did your DH love you more or less after kids?

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As the title really -
If you had a husband or partner who really loved and supported you pre-kids, did having kids make him more or less loving of you?

My husband is an incredible husband - I am absolutely his number one priority and I feel really loved and adored by him. I wonder if having kids will change the way he treats me? What are your experiences?

@Olinguita at the time I wondered whether my now XH was depressed as well, or just abusive. I came on here to ask and someone said "you can't turn depression on and off", so if that's what's happening then no, he isn't depressed, he's just being an arse. But if he's like it all the time then tell him to get to the GP and get himself some help.

It's lovely to read all these heartening stories though @ApronLady89, and I'm sorry to bring the thread down, I just picked a wrong'un.

@ApronLady89 this is such a lovely thread, I agree! I’m so pleased I started it.

Thank you so much to everyone who has shared your advice and thoughts and experiences. I love this website sometimes - it can feel so loving and supportive. And helpful!

@ApronLady89 Ive also ordered the book! It sounds exactly up my street!

It may not be that they love you less after children, just that the priorities change with all the upheaval of having a demanding young child in the household, so it is not difficult for couples to lose part of their closeness through exhaustion and sleepless night.

We didn’t lose the closeness when baby arrived as we always ensured we made time to catch up with each other properly and have time alone. The closeness evaporated when we stopped spending as much time with each other, with him being busy with works and hobbies and I with a sickly baby, we just grew apart