I can't quantify someone else's emotion, let alone trying to do so after so many years, and I no longer wish to try to figure that sort of thing out. It's never done me any good. I've also never expected to be the centre of anyone's attention consistently.
My husband and I discussed having kids and how we wanted family life to be fairly early on in our relationship, and he stepped up just as he said he would - that first night, he stayed up all night with a baby that did not want to be put down so I could rest. That mattered more to me than if he loved me more or less that night than a year before.
That baby is now about to enter his final year of school and I can say my own feelings have fluctuated over a lot over the years. We've had our good years and hell years, kids change thing, but they haven't been the biggest hit by a long shot. Dealing with loved ones dying and their deaths was a far larger hit. Dealing with health collapses, financial problems, losing careers, negative 'friends' and family getting at us, faith changes - we've been through the wringer together, but while our kids made it all more complicated, they've never been the issue for us. They're about the only part of our lives we planned back then that's pretty much worked out how we imagined.
If a child of mine asked who I loved more, I'd put emphasis on love not being a competition, everyone's love is different so can't be compared like that. I refuse to play that kind of game. I can't see any benefit. That's thankfully not come up for us, but on how we decided to have kids has: I tell them about our conversations, that it's always a risk which is why if it isn't a 'fuck yes' for both parents open to many of those risks, I wouldn't recommend it.