Been together 8 years, kids house all of those things, been engaged for 3 years and we have planned a very small wedding due to the cost of things, paid deposits on everything..
Recently out relationship hasn't been great. He sees it as my job to do all the housework, childcare etc as I "only work part time".. so on his days off he plays computer or lies in bed while I get up with the kids, cook clean and some days then go to work. While it's summer hols he's acting even worse. I've booked the youngest into a creche for the days we both have to work, just half days. He's not happy. Says it's my job to look after them and I should change my hours at work and tell them I can't come in.. I work in a cafe on minimum wage. I can't change my hours.
The wedding is costing us alot of our spare money. He says it's a waste of money. We have booked a registry office, then a restaurant for some nice food. My mum is telling me she doesn't want to go as it's too much effort finding an outfit. My dad says he doesn't want to leave the dogs on their own for so long, so I doubt they will change their mind and come. I thought I had a good relationship with them but they won't come to my wedding. My brother works away and won't be able to leave work to come home for a few days.. (they paid for half of my brother's fancy wedding, and they went).
My partner refuses to talk about anything wedding at all, won't even discuss the cake, kids outfits nothing. He says "you wanted it, you sort it". Then he said the way Ive acted in the past still annoys him and he's scared IL act like that when we're married.. I was shocked, upset I asked him what does he mean, he said having a go at him to help with the kids and the house etc. The way he said it was quite mean and I was nearly in tears making out that I'm so horrible to him and horrible to live with but all I did was just ask him to help with normal stuff around the house as he does nothing unless asked. The way he said it I knew he resents me over it but I really dont think I've done anything wrong.
Since that conversation and with the wedding getting closer he's been so short tempered with me and grouchy, I feel like I've been ignored deliberately like he will go sit in a different room to me and avoid me, shoving past me if I'm in his way, slamming my dinner plate down. I try making conversation he never responds. Never wants to go out with me, but will put his coat on and leave without saying anything. I've been going to bed in tears most nights. I'm starting to feel depressed. I'm not eating properly and I'm on the verge of tears all the time, even a rude Customer at work is enough to make my eyes start tearing up and I have to tell myself to get a grip.
I've got a dress fitting tomorrow and I'm not looking forward to it. Instead I'm sat here crying feeling unwanted. My mum's never come with me to any dress shops as she's not going to the wedding so I've had to go on my own like an idiot. I've got no one to share wedding plans and talk with. I'm regretting the whole thing now.