I'm not invited to the christening of my friends baby.....

[tvgatlop]

Today is my friends little boys christening.
I wasn't invited.
She is my best friend of 20 years.
She has 2 friends me and another girl she works with....this girl is the godmother.

I'm gutted.
We speak most days,she rings me etc
Have days out for birthdays /Christmas

They are going to church then going for a meal at a fancy estate.
I'm gutted that I'm not invited
I could understand if she had lots of friends ..but there's just 2.

Would you be upset too?
She said I hope your not upset about the no invite ...she said it's just family and godparents (but obviously still hurts )

I listen to her nearly every day on the phone whilst she rants and sounds off about her marriage ..

OP I think this may be why she didn't invite you. Basically you know too much, she's used you as a de facto marriage therapist and probably felt awkward about inviting you to a celebration of the birth of the child she had with the husband she's been ranting about to you.

Really shitty behaviour by her, I'm so sorry.

That makes so much more sense than her just mugging off her close friend for no reason

what a shit reason to lie to her though but yeah, that’s really astute of you

Unfortunately I don't think that's the reason.
She's been ranting about him for years yet still invited to baby shower etc
I'm okay now,still hurt but I'm okay
Deffo stepping back from this friendship as I'm not sure what I actually do get from it tbh

Has she had the brass neck to contact you yet? Play it cool when she does as she may be expecting a rant so she can use it to justify her appalling behaviour. Give her no get out. 'it was nice of you to invite .......... looks like you all had a great time'. Leave her to respond. Then just 'got to go now meeting Mandy or whoever for lunch, talk again sometime' no

No she hasn't and I haven't contacted her either
I expect a phone call before the end of the week

This happened to me but it was my cousin’s wedding. Always thought we were very close but I got totally snubbed. My Gran didn’t want to upset me so didn’t tell
me either, I found out when I saw pics on Instagram. I blocked her and haven’t spoken to her since.

@tvgatlop op did your friend ever contact you following christening? X

Maybe they can't afford to buy more people lunch and as a couple have decided to keep it as family and godparents only? If she invites you, maybe her husband would have wanted to invite a friend too and they can't afford it. They may have had to draw the line somewhere.
Don't take it to heart, I'm sure she feels upset and rotten about it already if the above is the case

Also, if you're that close....can't you just ask her? Explain that you felt disappointed and ask why you weren't invited?

Why would you ask one of yojr closest friends why you weren’t invited? Surely the onus is on them to realise it’s absolutely shit to invite everyone but them and provide a sufficient enough explanation

if that explanation isn’t forthcoming or pretty much tells you everything you need to know