Every boyfriend I have had has mentioned my weight

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School
uni
work
engagement - (dumped him before I married)
long term love in partner
two shorter term partners

now single obviously never married or had children with any of them

every one of them has had something covertly or less covertly about my weight
5ft 10 - size 10
gym daily
bmi usually 24/25
is this something dick headish men always feel the need to comment on?

i remember going on a date with one over the past couple of years or so who made a habit of looking me up and down very obviously to make it clear they were judging my weight - followed by saying ‘you might want to take a small portion of ice cream, you dont want to get fatter’. ghosted him hard as anything. Now none of these men have been like this to begin with - all came out over a period of time and when they started going on like this they were dumped.

not sure why they had to same anything really - none of them were winning any body building awards.

it got worse the more sucessful in my career I got I noticed (I now earn well over six figures and own my own business - built from scratch). Can anyone shed any light on this? Or are men just like this and you have to accept that they think its ok to mention how much weight you have gained? Pinch your flab? Comment on how much you have eaten? Comment on how slimmer you were when they first met you? Gaslit you into saying ‘its my concern for your health’? ‘Can you not look more like x’… the list goes on.

i have actually said to one before if my bmi was over 40 and i had health issues then perhaps I could take your comments seriously but I clearly am not clinically over weight here.

can anyone shed any light on this phenomenon i have encountered?

You are quite obviously tall and slim .Added to this you are financially successful.I think they are knobs .Trying to put you down as you are more successful .Let me guess they are not exactly a shoo in for Adonis right!

No never had it and always weighed more than you. What awful twats!

Floored me !

It's so rude . How would he like it if you criticised his height or the size of his cock !

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Funny how op has disappeared. I call bs

Attention seeking at its finest 🤷‍♀️

You are enviably tall and slim, so they’re negging you because they feel inferior. I went out for a while with a man who made snide ‘honest’ remarks. That didn’t last long!

Don’t put up with rudeness. It is never a good sign.

BMI 24 or 25 is not slim

Fuck off with the fat shaming of people in a healthy BMI range.

BMI 24-24.9 is within the ‘healthy weight’ range. It seems surprisingly high for someone who is 5ft 10 and size 10, which is definitely slim.

Do you always choose the same "type" of man? If you have a "type", that could be the problem.

I'm 5ft 10 and was a size 10 (definitely not any more) I was at the high end of my bmi healthy range and I was also fainting because my blood pressure was 85/60.

Honestly people need to stop believing everyone fits in a neat box and bmi is actually a completely reliable way of judging all people (look up lipoedema for a start - weights all in the legs and affects 10% of women).

Anyway that's besides the point. It's probably the success in work that's intimidating them or the height. A good portion (not all) of men in my experience don't like you being taller or more financially successful than them.

I have never experienced this. It's very odd behaviour.

These guys sound very insecure.
Were any of them close to the same height and as successful as you?

You may or may not do this but sometimes women will mention something about their own appearance in a slightly negative way.

This seems to open the door for people commenting on their appearance.

I believe you have to have very sharp and strong boundaries as there are far too many out there looking to take someone down a notch plus it is almost a societal hobby to feel entitled to comment on women's appearances.

I've found that shutting it down with, "my appearance/food/eating habits aren't a topic for discussion. Understood?"
This works extremely well with most any inappropriate topic.

I'm not fat shaming, I am stating a fact. A person at the very upper end of a healthy BMI is not slim. They may be healthy (op states she is 24/25 and 25 is overweight), but they are not slim (insert usual disclaimer about the rare outliers on the BMI scale - elite athletes at the like).
Slim is slender and thin.
OP says she is a size 10 which is indeed probably slim, so (as I have said above) there is some disjoint between her size and weight. I did ask her is she was extremely muscular, but she hasn't answered.

Love yourself for who you are and ditch any bloke with anything negative to say about you or your body.