Going down on one knee?

[Corrimony]

I’m in love with a man from work.He has recently separated from his partner. I separated from DS’s dad 1yr ago. He comes into my office and goes down on one knee and kisses and hugs me passionately. He has said it feels right, being on his knee. Do you think he is hinting at marriage, or alternatively just that he loves to be on his knees before me and would enjoy being in a sexually submissive encounter (he loves a wide variety of ways of exploring passion!!). Sorry, I’m pretty new to this and clueless!

PS. Being on his knees means he can’t be so easily seen by colleagues through the office window, so maybe I shouldn’t read more into it!

It sounds very unprofessional. Maybe ask him not to do that in the office.

I cannot picture this in my minds eye, it sounds weird though!
Ask him if he is doing it so he can’t be seen?

You are making some very poor decisions that will have serious consequences when it all goes sideways.

Jesus Christ, tell him to get up and stop f*cking around like a teenager. If he's got a message to convey regarding his feelings for you or his sexual persuasions, and he can't do it other than through mime it really doesn't bode well for a relationship. When you say you're in love with him, how well do you know him? Do you have any other contact with him other than him crawling around near your desk at work and groping you?

Good lord stop it all at once.

It's like watching a car crash in slow motion.

If you want a relationship then keep it out of hours. Or one of you [probably you as that's the way it works] will end up losing their job.

Well stop all 'passionate embraces' in the workplace for a start, it's hugely inappropriate, tacky as hell and could be seen as sexual harassment by any colleagues forced to endure your heavy petting.

Add on the fact that if the relationship implodes you'll have to deal with each other at work still so you need to set clear personal/work boundaries and enforce them.

I'm so confused. Does he hug you round the waist as he's on one knee?

Is this a joke ??

Keep your shenanigans for out of work hours.

Does he kiss and hug you while on one knee..?

We’ve been friends for years now. It’s the sex bit that’s new. Neither one of us is in a position of authority over the other. Everyone knows we are together and no one one minds. I know he’s acting like a teenager, but the thing is, it’s been amazing to feel like a teenager.

This is insane.

You have a child to support. Do not do anything that will jeopardize your ability to remain employed.

It’s unclear from your message - are you actually dating each other? Did you end your relationships for each other?

Like PP say, it’s a bad idea to be kissing and hugging passionately at work. Best done on your own time, and I speak as someone who met her now husband at work.

As for going down on his knee - just take it with a pinch of salt. It just means he’s extravagant with his expressions. A lot of men do this because they enjoy making bold romantic gestures. That’s what lovebombing is. He’s probably feeling romantic about you but that doesn’t mean there is depth or lasting power to his feelings - that can only be tested over time.

You say you’re in love with him so your heart is very much engaged but you need to keep your head engaged too. It’s way too soon to know whether you and would make a good long-term partnership. If you and he are now dating, just let it unfold. Outside work hours.

Sorry, OP. Missed your update. I would still say enjoy it but proceed with caution. Teenage relationships don’t generally last.

Yes.

This would absolutely give me the ick

Hilarious

or utterly tragic if real…

Good advice, thank you. I think you are right.

Also, is there a massive height difference given that he can hug and kiss you whilst kneeling down? I’m picturing Janette Krankie.

You behaviour towards each other in work, must be exactly the same as it would be towards any other employee or you are jeopardising your job. Please be careful.

You need to ensure if it ended tomorrow it would be business as usual for you both in work.

I thought this was about a Black Lives Matter gesture- but it’s about a bloke behaving like a dick. Tell him to get a grip and eff off. I imagine your colleagues are all sticking their fingers down their throats every time they see you both.

Everyone knows we are together and no one one minds. you don't know that. I would feel very uncomfortable but possibly not feel I could speak out. Just keep it for outside work.

In work? Catch yourselves on.

Just because everyone knows, doesn’t mean it’s ok. It’s not professional for you both to be acting like this in the workplace, and i’d be very worried about anyone who goes down on their knees to kiss me, let alone at work. It’s immature at best, sorry (and i’m all for passion and lust etc - it’s just there is a time and a place!)

😆I am sitting on my chair, he kneels