Are there any decent men in the north?

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So, I've been browsing a few of the dating sites and had it set to up to 50 miles away - I'm in the north near the top of North Yorkshire. None in this area I would touch. So, I reset the distance to the whole country. Well, hello southern boys!! So much better looking - imo - and had more about them (educated, professional - well, a lot are). I'm in a professional role myself and instantly go off someone if they don't intellectually stimulate. They must also be attractive.
It doesn't help that I hate northern accents - geordie, scouse; Mancunian, wearside, Teesside - so I know that rules a lot of northern men out. I love southern accents. Looking back to my teens, I used to love listening to southern radio chat shows just because of the guys voice. I love getting phone calls at work from southern men. Yes, I have a problem!! Ha ha!

However, I'm 50 but look younger. Recently out of a long, sexless marriage with a man who was emotionally cold and quite a bit older than me. I am in the process of putting the family home on the market and want to buy somewhere in a village and out of town. If it wasn't for my youngest (14), I'd leave the north! But, I can't take her away from her father's area and her school (she's timid and shy - and doing well at the school she is at) so I can't contemplate leaving the north until she goes to university.

Is it just me who finds the northern men ewwww? What the heck can I do about it?? I don't want to be alone forever and I'm feeling very lonely! Parents are RIP and no family around. Friends tend to be work friends and they live in other towns!!

Btw. I've been using the dating sites about 3-4 months. Had 6 dates but most geordies!! Aarrghhh! I really am particular about voice!

I don't know whereabouts you are in North Yorkshire, it's a massive area, but I live 25 miles north of Richmond. I have a bit of twang from working all over the north east, but don't have a "Way eye or Whey's key are these" accent.

The whole of the north of England? Are you feeling okay?

Oh come on you know what she means.
I think you should keep on dating. It only takes one. You might find the spark and the accent won’t be so grating ( and he’lllose it when you move down south😁)

I've always thought men outside of London and the south east tend to settle down much younger. Perhaps all the good ones are taken!

Have you put on your profile that you like men with a southern accent? It'll save you wasting your time.

I love a Geordie accent, ended up with a southern DH!

Good idea! But, they probably live down south and I live up north! Big problem! Well, atm it is.

Most of them, yes. But, as a PP said, you only need one. It's filtering him out that's the problem, so mentioning it will really help.

I can literally feel the disappointment for all who have those disgustingly tonal northern vowels being ruled out from dating the op.

How will they cope with the rejection?

In from deep rural Suffolk and found my DH online...noooo not Tinder but a Land Rover forum. We got talking on there first and only later found out he was from up north.

The first telephone call was hilarious as I could barely understand him 😂

His family are intrigued by my accent as most have little idea about rural east anglia other than Ipswich. Haha

See my lovely man is from the North but I did meet him in London so maybe the best ones moved away.

Seriously though how could you not love the Northern accents. I'm actually sad our kids don't have my husbands and his families soft yorkshire accent!

The pp's point about people settling down younger is true though. The lovely Northern guys I know are all dads and husbands now.

In all seriousness, is moving an option? I don’t think this is purely a grass is greener thing, I think men genuinely are more likely to be married/settled down outside London, and if it’s suited and booted and high earning you want they’re also more likely to be found there. I live in the north - no shade on it at all and I love mine and my Geordie DH’s accents - but all the well educated professional men I work with or am friends with have been settled down for ever (and you wouldn’t like their accents anyway).

Is it just me who finds the northern men ewwww?

I imagine so. There is a huge difference between Melvyn Bragg and Liam Gallagher.

@Barleysugar86 my friend have told me I've picked up a bit of northern twang and can here or in myself sometimes. DH's is soft too.

He's lost none of it since moving down to alien territory in Suffolk but there's an odd Suffolk Boi word that comes out 😂

Obviously all northern men have a low IQ and an awful accent.
This is surely a wind up.

😂

I am a Londoner whose dad was a Mackem (Sunderland) and spent 6 weeks every summer in the North Yorkshire Dales while also visiting grandparents and family in the NE. I absolutely love Northern accents and have met so many good looking witty men from the North East. I guess it makes sense as I spent so many happy times around people from that part of the world. I also like the take no prisoners attitude of so many Yorkshire women.

However my husband is from California and I live on the West Coast of the USA. All my mothers siblings married people from other countries (India, Hungary) but Mackey seemed just as foreign to many Londoners! So I guess I am following family tradition...

I'm a southerner who lives in Yorkshire. I love it here! I love the men, the accent, everything.

They're lucky to be ruled out from what I've read so far.

*typo Mackey should obviously be Mackem.

I love a proper cockney accent but I find most southern accents on men don't sound v masculine.

@orangeisthenewpuce I agree. I wonder if its because working class men are likely to have the strongest regional accents? Cockney or MLE (Multicultural London English) are good examples. Working class men often seem more masculine to me so a regional accent emphasizes that. But I grew up around Sarf Londoners and Mackems so am probably biased! The boys from the local private school seemed particularly naive and arrogant for example. Also the most intelligent people I know have working class backgrounds, so I certainly don't equate a certain accent with intelligence. The state of our national politics is a good example of that!

Why not move south? I’m sure you won’t be missed!

I have a friend who moved from the North to Guildford just to improve her dating life after several years of being messed about by medium ugly bald men with no money and bad habits, and she met her now DH within 6 months. He works in insurance. I don't know how representative that is but she says she is never moving back!