Are there any decent men in the north?

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So, I've been browsing a few of the dating sites and had it set to up to 50 miles away - I'm in the north near the top of North Yorkshire. None in this area I would touch. So, I reset the distance to the whole country. Well, hello southern boys!! So much better looking - imo - and had more about them (educated, professional - well, a lot are). I'm in a professional role myself and instantly go off someone if they don't intellectually stimulate. They must also be attractive.
It doesn't help that I hate northern accents - geordie, scouse; Mancunian, wearside, Teesside - so I know that rules a lot of northern men out. I love southern accents. Looking back to my teens, I used to love listening to southern radio chat shows just because of the guys voice. I love getting phone calls at work from southern men. Yes, I have a problem!! Ha ha!

However, I'm 50 but look younger. Recently out of a long, sexless marriage with a man who was emotionally cold and quite a bit older than me. I am in the process of putting the family home on the market and want to buy somewhere in a village and out of town. If it wasn't for my youngest (14), I'd leave the north! But, I can't take her away from her father's area and her school (she's timid and shy - and doing well at the school she is at) so I can't contemplate leaving the north until she goes to university.

Is it just me who finds the northern men ewwww? What the heck can I do about it?? I don't want to be alone forever and I'm feeling very lonely! Parents are RIP and no family around. Friends tend to be work friends and they live in other towns!!

I'm funny about voices. I like a deep voice with a London twang. I'm middle class but don't find middle class men attractive as I dislike posh accents.

I’m from London, living in the NW and DH is from forrin land so no skin in the game. The OP actually has a point. When I was OD I noticed Southerners were taller, checked the average height in different parts of the UK and it seems to be a thing. The higher paid jobs etc are obviously more London-focused. People tend to leave the SE when they settle.

Ok..I will say my DH is lovely and when I initially moved up to Leeds I was shocked. I thought I was behind the times coming from Suffolk but my god, the sexism and racism was something I'd never experienced.

Could be the people I met, I don't know, and Leeds isn't Yorkshire.

My DH and his family are Irish and moved to Leeds in the 70s so he's probably not real northern either.

I've never heard such terms for women, which I won't repeat on here, until I mixed with my DHs circle.

Leeds is definitely in Yorkshire.

We live right in the depths of the North ( Cumbria ) my dh is a cockney , so they do travel further than the Watford Gap ! I see no problem in putting a witty request for a softy southerner on your profile. Good luck !

I'm no fan of the North of England, but it's a bit much to write the entire single male population!
Not everyone in the north are from there anyway

Yep, just like running water and electricity, all good-looking or intelligent men are confined to remain south of the Watford gap.

WTF am I reading??? Of course there are decent men up here!!

@Phoebesgift course it is!! I'm just telling my experience when I live in south Leeds and we travellled out often to the rest of Yorkshire. From my limited experience there's definitely a difference between the two

I'm in north North Yorkshire, Northallerton actually and when I was single i found the dating pool horrendous!! Definitely nicer me down south or even in cities like leeds etc.
After countless dates I've finally found a decent man and we've been together for a year.

JFC what a stupid and ignorant thread.

Yes there are. But you are too shallow for them.

My DFiancee is from Lancashire. Gorgeous, intelligent and doesn't have a very thick accent. I'm so in love with him. There are plenty of eligible men around, best part is once you marry you can actually buy a house before you have kids.

Oh and I used to be in London. Men there were flakes. Glad I moved.

I'm a northerner in London, married to a Londoner.
I actually love Yorkshire accents but I'd never have a criteria for accents. Come on, how shallow are you OP? You don't sound much a catch yourself!

I do @Phoebesgift

I'm obsessed with nooo-ghhhh-rrr

Norreahhh

I can't type it. The northern no 😂

And kaaarck or cake or cay-uk as my DH reminds me

Or coory if you're bother or Cuh-reeee in EA.

😂

Northern not bother! Ugh

Oh come now. Most men are far more shallow and would ditch their wife of 30 years if a blonde with big tits led them on. But women must be "shallow" for daring to express a vague preference.

Also while there 'appears' to be plenty of choice in London IME people were commitment phobic. Always looking for something better.

The OP has something more than a vague preference. She'd actually move South to achieve her ideal southern speaking bloke!

Or Sean Bean and Jacob Rees-Mogg

"Or Sean Bean and Jacob Rees-Mogg"

Christ Sean bean 😜 or JRM the Victorian pencil
🤣

Or Sean Bean and Jacob Rees-Mogg

JRM isn't northern

Or decent

I'm not long back from Northumberland and LOVED the accents. They are so so lilting and friendly, the people were just absolutely lovely. It is one of my favourite parts of Britain for many reasons, but the men seemed normal and nice. 🤷‍♀️

Honestly the Southern accents I find a bit grating. I have family in Cambridgeshire and Essex and they're lovely, but the way they talk makes my ears bleed. The last time I was there I went a whole week without hearing 'th' pronounced as anything other than 'f' shudder

NB Slightly tongue in cheek to match the ridiculous nature of the OP but also true

Dh has a london accent and after 20 years it bloody grates!

it’s not the accent itself, it’s the speech and grammar.
He can’t say “th”, so for example he thinks “three” and “free” are exactly the same.
The using “was” instead of “were”…

give me a northern accent with decent english every day.

Ok..I will say my DH is lovely and when I initially moved up to Leeds I was shocked. I thought I was behind the times coming from Suffolk but my god, the sexism and racism was something I'd never experienced

i worked in Leeds for a while and found it very much the opposite. The work environment was one of the most equal I’ve worked in. Londoners, on the other hand can be a mixed bag. There’s a lot of “site humour” and banter which is very close to the bone. Men’s jobs are seen as the key roles, if dh had to leave for nursery run or parents evening he got asked “can’t your wife do it” every single time.

What surprises me about the OPs comment is that there might be decent men on dating sites, regardless of where they live.