Are there any decent men in the north?

[MarmaladeToastandTea]

So, I've been browsing a few of the dating sites and had it set to up to 50 miles away - I'm in the north near the top of North Yorkshire. None in this area I would touch. So, I reset the distance to the whole country. Well, hello southern boys!! So much better looking - imo - and had more about them (educated, professional - well, a lot are). I'm in a professional role myself and instantly go off someone if they don't intellectually stimulate. They must also be attractive.
It doesn't help that I hate northern accents - geordie, scouse; Mancunian, wearside, Teesside - so I know that rules a lot of northern men out. I love southern accents. Looking back to my teens, I used to love listening to southern radio chat shows just because of the guys voice. I love getting phone calls at work from southern men. Yes, I have a problem!! Ha ha!

However, I'm 50 but look younger. Recently out of a long, sexless marriage with a man who was emotionally cold and quite a bit older than me. I am in the process of putting the family home on the market and want to buy somewhere in a village and out of town. If it wasn't for my youngest (14), I'd leave the north! But, I can't take her away from her father's area and her school (she's timid and shy - and doing well at the school she is at) so I can't contemplate leaving the north until she goes to university.

Is it just me who finds the northern men ewwww? What the heck can I do about it?? I don't want to be alone forever and I'm feeling very lonely! Parents are RIP and no family around. Friends tend to be work friends and they live in other towns!!

I find the accent very unattractive as well OP. Not anyones fault, just do. It’s like having a preference for tall or some other attribute.

"The only difference I've noticed is that Yorkshire people tend to be more friendly/chatty with strangers"

That's definitely true compared to where we are now. But im not partially friendly in the same way so that proves the point I guess.

I do think they look different though but not in a bad way. It's not even something I can put my finger on. But that might be me. At high school when the next towns middle school merged with our I thought the same 😂

I find the accent very unattractive as well OP

which accent? Newcastle, Cumbria, Middlesbrough, Leeds, Hull, Bradford, Manchester…. Because they’re all quite different.

Exactly! Loads of different accents up north. What do you mean by a southern accent anyway? I'm from Hastings, Sussex and I can't say the accent is particularly pleasant! My friend lives in Essex and again - it's not a pleasing accent to me. I also lived in Devon and they had a strong accent which is not to everyone's taste (although I liked it). I think the Yorkshire accent is gorgeous! Apparently it's seen as being down to earth and honest which is why they often use Yorkshire people in adverts etc. Many people like it.

Can I just say...I'm Scottish, educated in Edinburgh and a continental university, family overseas, and when I lived in northern England, I found it very difficult culturally. Even trying to point out to the local NHS healthcare trust that people wanted to do more than sit on their backsides after 40 getting fat and that doing sport etc wasn't unusual in that age group. They just did not get it. A lot of their culture was based around mining, industrial decline, living cheek by jowl, etc. I think you only get that kind of culture in Scotland in inner Glasgow and maybe parts of Dundee. It felt very, very foreign.

How dare you?!

My whippet pushes her pretty little face between any jowl I choose to push my cheek up against. She's just trying to get to her biscuits and toys, mind, but still . . . .

We're just not good enough for the towering intellect of Southerners or Scottish Continental University edu-ma-cated towering intellects such as yourself and the OP. If you must leave and let us get on with it without you, so be it.

You will - and are if you've already gone - be missed. Dreadfully. We'll struggle to cope without you.

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Actually DoncasterHombre I had more than my fair share of Geordies making snooty remarks of "ventured across the border, have we?" based on my very clear Scottish accent (at least I think thats what they said), so you can take your attitude and stick where it belongs. Many nice people too, but definitely an attitude of looking down their noses at the restless natives, Dunning-Kruger et al.

@AchatAVendre

Firstly, I'm not a Geordie.

Secondly - and lastly - good riddance to you! I'm glad you and your smart arse don't live in England anymore. I hope you're happy wherever you may be but, please, stay there and don't come back 🖕

Definitely mention that you don't like northern men on your dating profile - it'll save them wasting time and effort responding to you.

Unfortunately for you, you don't own England. And even more unfortunately, I can almost guarantee that I own more of England than you do. Ergo you do not get to say who enters, leaves and stays in England. Nice arable land in places, good for more than potatoes.

😂Pathetic! A keyboard warrior of the Mumsnet variety!

Mind yer tatties, lass!

Why do you think we call Northerners Dingles or Doilems.😂😂

I'm from the north, on occasion I sound like Geoffrey Boycott other times I have a posh Harrogate accent.
I do find southern accents in women attractive.
The southern accent sounds more educated in either party.

OP I am 51 and have a wonderful West Yorkshire DH. I think you will find you have missed the boat. All the good ones got taken in the 80's!

Plus you sound a bit of a dick!

Have you tried Harrogate? Wilmslow? Lyme?

Bugger, missed the scrap.

Still an entertaining thread.

I’m not sure all southern accents come out well. West Country, Essex and Pompey are the ones people mimic when they want to sound …er dim.

Really op should be going for Sweden accents. Very smart sounding and everyone knows all Swedes are tall, smart and good in bed.

I was born and brought up in Yorkshire so feel I can make some unbiased comments
All southern accents sound entitled and insincere
Litteraly everyone with a Yorkshire accent is honest and loveable
All people with a Liverpool accent have a criminal record, every single one
Nobody with a brummy accent has ever managed to pass an o level, ever
Nobody with a cornish accent has ever left Cornwall never mind ever married someone who isn't cornish

Hope this helps

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