Are there any decent men in the north?

[MarmaladeToastandTea]

So, I've been browsing a few of the dating sites and had it set to up to 50 miles away - I'm in the north near the top of North Yorkshire. None in this area I would touch. So, I reset the distance to the whole country. Well, hello southern boys!! So much better looking - imo - and had more about them (educated, professional - well, a lot are). I'm in a professional role myself and instantly go off someone if they don't intellectually stimulate. They must also be attractive.
It doesn't help that I hate northern accents - geordie, scouse; Mancunian, wearside, Teesside - so I know that rules a lot of northern men out. I love southern accents. Looking back to my teens, I used to love listening to southern radio chat shows just because of the guys voice. I love getting phone calls at work from southern men. Yes, I have a problem!! Ha ha!

However, I'm 50 but look younger. Recently out of a long, sexless marriage with a man who was emotionally cold and quite a bit older than me. I am in the process of putting the family home on the market and want to buy somewhere in a village and out of town. If it wasn't for my youngest (14), I'd leave the north! But, I can't take her away from her father's area and her school (she's timid and shy - and doing well at the school she is at) so I can't contemplate leaving the north until she goes to university.

Is it just me who finds the northern men ewwww? What the heck can I do about it?? I don't want to be alone forever and I'm feeling very lonely! Parents are RIP and no family around. Friends tend to be work friends and they live in other towns!!

"i worked in Leeds for a while and found it very much the opposite. The work environment was one of the most equal I’ve worked in"

I worked in financial services in LS1 and I'll agree with you on that. Totally wonderful.

However I lived in LS10 and trust me, I'm not lying a few miles out it's incredibly different. I hated it.

This reads like north/south prejudice bingo, OP.

@TiddyTidTwo honestly I don't think it's Leeds itself! There's nobbers everywhere and unfortunately your DHs circle appear to be some of them.

I'm afraid that would have been curtains for me as I absolutely can't stand a man with twatty misogynistic mates.

DS lives in Leeds which is north to me, he hasn't got a northern accent and he is tall but that is probably because he was born further south

You find all northern men "eww" or just the single ones?! I work with plenty of men who are your age and absolutely lovely with respectable jobs and they can hold a conversation despite being from the North

They're just all married!

If accent is such a problem you need to move (and consider why you have such prejudice). Are the northern people in your life aware that you look down upon them from high?

Duh! That's the whole point. Sean Bean = Northern & hot. JRM = Southern & not.

"honestly I don't think it's Leeds itself! There's nobbers everywhere and unfortunately your DHs circle appear to be some of them.

I'm afraid that would have been curtains for me as I absolutely can't stand a man with twatty misogynistic mates"

Oh I absolutely agree. It was curtains.

Hence we are living in rural Suffolk, and "friends" long gone. He has some proper Suffolk bois as friends now and never been happier 😉

My in-laws are Northern, and there are a few members of the family who are lovely.

Good-looking, educated, caring, and single.

I don’t think they’d be interested, though.

😀glad to hear it!

I do enjoy Southerners definitions of 'North' though given I'm about 4.5 hours drive north of Leeds, and you could keep going north for a long time after that! 😂

@ItsDangerousInKingsmarkham

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Lots of lovely people up north! My bestest friend from there who I love and keep in regular touch with is far north of Leeds. He's amazing and one of the nicest people I've ever met.

Well, hello southern boys!! So much better looking - imo - and had more about them (educated, professional - well, a lot are). I'm in a professional role myself and instantly go off someone if they don't intellectually stimulate.

Do you think nobody gets an education north of Sheffield?
What an ignorant snob you are.
Also - a goady twat.

I don't know what she means @lightisnotwhite .
Can you explain it to me?

@KettrickenSmiled its called a generalisation. It’s commonly used, often to get a personal viewpoint across ie all Brexit voters are morons, Tory voters are scum etc.
In this case the Op said she likes a southern accent thereby ruling out northern men.

Maybe if dating sites are rammed with attractive and intelligent southern men it's because they find their local options ... less appealing?

I've had better connections from midlands to north as a Lincolnshire girl. I lived in London for over 2 years and guys were either crazy/dangerous or jealous. They may have looked better but personalities certainly weren't.

And that's just tongue in cheek, but if we are going to play this ridiculous north/south bullshit you can spin a narrative however you like.

Many years ago I left London for Yorkshire - still here, I like it, but it was so noticeable that the size of the male arse in Yorkshire is much bigger than in London.

Or, the local "options" have met them in person.

Tut, tut, tut.

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I'm inclined to put you on the 'Doncaster Hombre Spanking List', OP . . . . . but only nice ladies get to go on that.

I'm not sure it'd be possible with you anyway. Your head seems to be stuck up your bum so your shoulders would get in the way!

What has looking younger than your years got to do with the price of eggs, OP?

God I'm from the South and married to a Northerner. How you can find that horrible Southern (especially estuary/home counties) accent attractive is weird. 😁

Nice to know you've found your type OP - though I maybe wouldn't mention that you think northerners are stupid, uneducated plebs who are ugly and with horrible accents....

Might not go down well.

Yes, I'm Scottish and thought that's what the OP was referring to!

Not the point of the thread but that's why Scottish people can feel separate from the UK.

This thread has blown my mind. I'm a southerner, lived down south for 38 years. Now been in Leeds 10 years and I really can't say I notice much difference between Northern and Southern men (apart from the accent) ! I certainly don't think Southern men are any better and I certainly haven't noticed Northern men have bigger arses!!! To me they're pretty similar - they're all British men. I do feel this north/south divide thing is artificial and there's not some huge difference between the two. I found southerners talked about it more than northerners do (lots of negative comments about "The North" etc). I've never heard northerners say anything disparaging about the South. The only difference I've noticed is that Yorkshire people tend to be more friendly/chatty with strangers.

All northern men are uneducated/unprofessional/unattractive?! Imagine if a man said that about all northern women. It's not only incredibly offensive but also completely incorrect. It's fine to have preferences when dating but you sound extremely prejudice against northerners OP.