What would you class "short" as when meeting a potential partner?

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I have heard this phrase a lot and for some people short is someone the same height as them, for others it is someone shorter than them. I even heard for some people someone who is three inches taller than them is short.

What would you class as short and what would be a deal breaker for you?

For men, anything under 5'10 is short and for women, anything under 5'6.

I'm 5'8 and would prefer partners of both sexes to be taller than me.

I'm 6ft so anyone under that is short to me. However being shorter than me isn't a problem - my DP is 5'6"

Some women like taller men - it may go back to cave men days, subconsciously feeling they can protect them better - who knows. Average height of male in UK is around 5' 10" I understand. Shorter in South America and Asian and taller in Netherlands etc. It's a genetic thing. It is fine to have preferences.

Some men like slimmer women and don't like fat women - some think it isn't fine for them to have a preference. Double standards perhaps.

Some trans think lesbians should fancy trans women and are transphobes if they don't - why should they fancy a biological man with bits removed. Their choice again.

Everyone should date who they want.

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Shorter than me. I am 5"8 and couldn't date anyone shorter than me."

"Why not? What would happen?"

She would turn into a person that ignores her subconscious female that wants a man to protect her. Back in the cave. Seriously though, people should date who they want as long as they don't complain when men say they prefer slimmer females or bigger tits.

Women, anyone under 5foot 4
Men, anyone under 5foot 9

Not a dealbreaker for me. I’m a 5 foot nothing woman. Have dated people between 6foot+ and 5’4! Has no bearing on attractiveness for me. Voices, on the other hand, matter much more to me!

I'm 5'9 but I used to row competitively so have a rowing-related warped concept of short. For rowing women, I'm at the shorter end of the scale. It's a little weird to be 5'9 and looking up lol. As for the men, 6' is considered short (plenty of bickering in our club's boathouse with a crew calling someone a short arse because he was 6').

Meanwhile, back in the real world 😝I'm one of the tallest people (male or female) in my office. I find it a bit depressing. Most of the men seem to be around 5'6. I can only think of 1 man who is taller than me (and he's Dutch). I started my job during lockdown so didn't meet my colleagues face to face until last summer. There were a couple of people where I had to really keep my mouth shut and not say "you look much taller on screen".😳

I love being fairly tall but it does limit relationships. I'm just not attracted to men who are shorter than me. It makes me feel clumpy and unfeminine. My own feelings frustrate me as I think that makes me shallow! One ex was half an inch shorter than me and it really bothered him (although he was Norwegian so I think he had residual issues about being 'short' in a country of tall people).

Short for me means under my height of 5 ft 6." Short for a woman, l'd say 5 ft 2 or under. Lots of men think they are taller than they are though, especially those on dating sites!

I get told ' aren't you tall' by practically everyone I meet. Like I've never noticed

I'm 5ft2. For me, too short would be under that.

I would say 5ft 8 and shorter is short for a man.

And 5ft 5 and shorter is short for a woman.

I'm 5ft 9 so have always looked for a man either my height or taller.

Under about 5ft 10 is a little short. I'm 5ft 8 though.

I'm 6ft as well!

For me:
Short: 5'8 and under
Tall: 6'0 and over.

For me personally, 5'10 and above is fine.

I'm 5'8 and for a partner anything shorter than me would be short for a man, I guess it's subjective to how tall you are.

DH is about a cm shorter than me, I'm 5'7". He's a lovely man, great dad and I"m not prepared to let his genes get in the way of a good relationship. Married 22 years.

I'm intrigued why you are asking. Because surely the answer is going to be different for everyone. Many women aren't bothered about a man being taller than them. Some even prefer short. For many, height is a non-issue. Even for those it is an issue for, it will be relevant to their own height, to varying degrees, eg a 5'6" woman who will only date people 6" and more above her, or a 5'1" woman who prefers men taller but not much.

There isn't a right and wrong - it's all just personal preference.

And that's before you get in to the debate of what you might be missing out on by introducing a 'rule' about height. We're all entitled to have particular likes and dislikes physically, but if we stick too rigidly to fixed rules we might miss the perfect man / woman for us.

This is the second post you’ve made today about people’s heights?! Have you started dating someone who’s 5 foot 1 or something 😅

People are very different and have different preferences-that’s pretty much what it boils down to.

Under 6ft would be too short for me, I don’t find men under 6ft attractive everyone has their preferences don’t see why people get annoyed about those that like tall men.

Why? All that's been indicated by the comments on this thread is that some women may not find him attractive and so he won't necessarily be able to have any woman he might want. Just the same as if you have a daughter who doesn't fit societies ideas of female beauty. There's clearly plenty of women who don't mind. Probably more so than there are men who look beyond physical appearance.

I'm 5'8, ex DH is 5'6 and could brvet5go that short again. New bf is 5'11, i think, perfect height anyway

Shorter than me - I'm 5ft7 so any (male) under 5ft 6 would be short to me. I went out with someone that height when I was younger and it didn't do much for me to be honest.

DH is 5ft 11 I think but is quite slim so looks a bit taller than he actually is. I do quite like him being taller than me, but I don't need to crane my neck to look up at him.

Under 5'5" would be short to me. I'm only 5'2" though. My DP is 5'6" and that's perfect for me.

Any man shorter than my 5’8”.

Men under 5'8 is short. Women under 5'4.

Shorter than me, I guess. I'm 5"8.
3 of my longterm relationships were over 6"3 (my dp is 6"4), and I don't even care about height.. It's never even entered the equation of what I want in a man, so they've been wasted on me really 😂

My dp has said that every single woman who's ever persued him has been short, so all his exes were fairly short purely for that reason. He doesn't care about height either.
It's something I notice as well.. Short women seem to generally prefer very tall men, whereas tall women don't really care.
Short women stare at him in public in a very interested way (he's gorgeous, but he doesn't know it) , until they notice me.. 😂

Any man shorter than me is too short to date