New relationship he wants us to do STI tests

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New partner wants us both to test for STI.

He says he wants me to have one before we do oral again.

We use condoms for PIV.

I guess he is right. But this is the first time I've been asked to do one. Felt a bit weird being asked to, but yes, he's right.

How do I do one? Is it free?
Can anyone help me I haven't been tested since Uni many years ago.

Maybe the guy got lost in the moment really likes the OP and wants a relationship and is probably thinking best to both get checked just in case before it happens again!

i don’t see this as an issue personally and I would rather be safe than sorry.

I did this with my first boyfriend as I wanted to be safe. I think it's a great idea. The gum/sexual health clinic will do it for free.

That doesn’t mean he’s not sensible, probs ky caught up in the moment and now worrying. Been there myself! Always best to get checked, and regularly, even if in a LTR!

@CloseYourEyesAndSee well she's referring to him as her partner so if he's slept with other people since her he's a cheat isn't he... a cheat who's willing to risk his girlfriends sexual health

Can you believe I ordered a test and it already arrived this morning! So quick.

For me my friends and relatives it always has been. I'm surprised the op didn't insist herself.

Just incase anyone finds this tread and is also getting tested for the first time in a very long time....
I sent off for a home testing kit and it arrived the next day. Discrete packaging. Super quick. Brilliant. Except it involved doing a vaginal swab (fine) and collecting a blood sample. The tube you need to fill says it's approx 16 drops of blood. I think it's more. I wasn't able to get that, I was bleeding but it wasn't going in the tube. The whole thing was pretty unpleasant. I left it.

This morning I called my sexual health service (county wide, I think) and got an appointment the same day. The lady on the phone did say this is unusual and I got lucky. The whole appointment lasted 10 mins. Quick swab which I did myself, it's easy. Then the nurse took some blood. All done. Very straightforward. Results in 3-5 days apparently.

Don't know why I didn't do it sooner.

Ahh the trick with those little pots is warm hands and to squeeze downwards on the finger whilst holding it over the pot as if you are milking it.

I made an absolute bloodbath when I did the blood test. It wasn't fun and left a bruise 😱

Why didn't you go to a clinic together? Has he been?

For men you get the same blood test ( obviously), but then it’s a urine test not a swab up the pee hole ( as I have read people stating online )

I'm extremely grateful for this thread. Very stupidly had unprotected sex with a new guy, and after reading this thread I ordered the home kit which came today. Really impressed.

I had a conversation with him yesterday and asked if he usually slept with women without a condom. The answer was basically yes so I am worried sick.
He said it's not something he's ever worried or thought about which I find very odd.
We're not in a relationship or even seeing each other but he's now going to get tested.

I have recently come out of a very long marriage and this was my first time with someone else, I feel quite ashamed that I let it happen.

@Namechange85 don’t bear yourself up. We all make mistakes. You do need to wait at least 6 weeks post contact to do a test. I’m not sure this guy is worth keeping though with that attitude!

As long as you both test, sounds responsible and a sign of developing commitment

Ahh ok thank you, I didn't realise I'd have to wait. I'm guessing the kits have a decent expiry date but I'll check it.

You're right, his attitude towards protection has given me some serious doubts about whether to let things progress. Although his last sexual encounter before me was last summer so it's not all the time, but still it only takes that once.

I'm impressed. Go to your local sexual health clinic. It's the right thing to do. DH and I did this when we met