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Deliveroo man - please vote, MN!

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beautyisthefaceisee · 04/07/2022 18:23

Hi folks

Earlier today I received a friends request from the gentleman who delivered my stuff earlier (My facebook is in a fake name, but he's obviously looked me up).

My immediate thought was "fuck no, that's creepy"

However - he was attractive, he was nice, and I thought that after our interaction.

Do I accept?
What do I do?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 21:27

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:39

@beautyisthefaceisee Are you Autistic op? Genuine question. He was trying to be sweet (albeit breaching his contract of employment) and simply added you. He then tried to flirt and you barked at him like an old school headmistress.

Regardless, it seems that romance is indeed, dead.

Yes, it was dead at the point he asked if i would like to make more children.

At least read the fucking thread.

Is there a reason you've used autism as an insult?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 21:29

MargotMoon · 06/07/2022 20:58

Passionfruit gin, eggs, sprite, cheese and bread

That's a pretty sexy order, tbf. I don't blame him for being interested OP! 😁

I want to pour the gin through my eye following some of these comments tbf. Perhaps I could have made him a cheese sandwich before he was sexually repulsive in a cheesy manner and I blocked him sprightly ;)

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 21:30

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:42

Ps no offence intended by the Autism question. My child has it and frequently misunderstands social cues. That's why I asked

Do me a favour. Never give your child judgement on random men messaging her, ffs!

Social cues 🙄 like looking people up on fb after you deliver food to their address? Like that? Well done on offending half the thread, btw. Social cues.....

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ldontWanna · 06/07/2022 21:31

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:42

Ps no offence intended by the Autism question. My child has it and frequently misunderstands social cues. That's why I asked

Given your reply, I wonder if it's you with skewed views about social cues. Romance my arse!

GoT1904 · 06/07/2022 21:54

Ahhhhh MN.

At first I was like "oh this could be romantic", but then the winky faces and blatant lie of it being an accident made me do a little throat sicky.

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 21:57

@beautyisthefaceisee You really do look for offence, don't you? Like you're actually searching for it. You're very, very angry! Wow

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 21:58

@ldontWanna Oh grow up! The guy liked a girl so he added her on Facebook, big deal! It's literally the plot of many a rom com! It wouldn't raise an eyebrow if a woman looked up a man she fancied! Stop virtue signalling

Answermethis2022 · 06/07/2022 21:59

I’d have to block and never use deliveroo again because I’d be worried if I reported him he’s come for me 🙈

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 22:00

@beautyisthefaceisee As I clearly stated afterwards, I was NOT using autism as an insult, I have a child with ASD ffs! I was merely trying to understand your point of view.

As I said, you're so, so very angry. I think you need to step away from social media for the night and calm down

haggan · 06/07/2022 22:02

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 22:00

@beautyisthefaceisee As I clearly stated afterwards, I was NOT using autism as an insult, I have a child with ASD ffs! I was merely trying to understand your point of view.

As I said, you're so, so very angry. I think you need to step away from social media for the night and calm down

Oh rude, ignorant AND dismissive Hmm

wellhelloitsme · 06/07/2022 23:15

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:39

@beautyisthefaceisee Are you Autistic op? Genuine question. He was trying to be sweet (albeit breaching his contract of employment) and simply added you. He then tried to flirt and you barked at him like an old school headmistress.

Regardless, it seems that romance is indeed, dead.

He replied asking if I have children and if I'd like to make some more.

Do you genuinely think this is sweet?!

wellhelloitsme · 06/07/2022 23:16

ldontWanna · 06/07/2022 20:42

It's so frightening how shitty and inappropriate behaviour is still considered being flirty and romantic.Confused

It's mental it?!

That even after OP said "He replied asking if I have children and if I'd like to make some more" people are still berating her and romanticising him / saying his behaviour is fine.

He knows where she lives, added her which is against his employee guidelines which shows poor boundaries, was told she wasn't interested... then asked if she wanted to have his babies.

It's absolutely batshit, inappropriate and many women would find it unnerving.

wellhelloitsme · 06/07/2022 23:18

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 21:58

@ldontWanna Oh grow up! The guy liked a girl so he added her on Facebook, big deal! It's literally the plot of many a rom com! It wouldn't raise an eyebrow if a woman looked up a man she fancied! Stop virtue signalling

Then she said no and he asked if she wanted to have his kids.

And you say she misunderstands social cues?!

StrawberryCheesecake08 · 06/07/2022 23:47

She messaged first. If I wasn't interested in someone (which she clearly wasn't) I would of just left it and not said anything to him. It's asking for trouble and I wouldn't of made angry comments saying he could lose his job. If I was going to complain I would of done it anonymously and ignored him 🙈
It doesn't add up for me. I think someone is playing martyr and everyone is buying into it. A facebook add is no big deal. OP got the ball rolling by sending a message first. This could of been avoided.

wellhelloitsme · 06/07/2022 23:53

StrawberryCheesecake08 · 06/07/2022 23:47

She messaged first. If I wasn't interested in someone (which she clearly wasn't) I would of just left it and not said anything to him. It's asking for trouble and I wouldn't of made angry comments saying he could lose his job. If I was going to complain I would of done it anonymously and ignored him 🙈
It doesn't add up for me. I think someone is playing martyr and everyone is buying into it. A facebook add is no big deal. OP got the ball rolling by sending a message first. This could of been avoided.

She gave him a warning that his behaviour was inappropriate (see below). She made it clear he wasn't interested. After the below he asked if she wanted to have kids. "She messaged first" is basically "she asked for it". She didn't message flirting, she messaged to say his behaviour was inappropriate. I would personally have reported him rather than message but she had every right to do what she thought best. And if he'd left it at 'apologies' that would have been sorted without him losing his income. But he didn't. He didn't take her no as a no. He pushed boundaries and said something completely inappropriate.

Here's a reminder of their exchange. She's not exactly leading him on is she?!

Me:
Did you really look up my info from deliveroo?!

Him:
A miss click lol ;) apologies ;)

Me:
You know you could be sacked for that? I would suggest you don't do it again.

StrawberryCheesecake08 · 07/07/2022 00:31

@wellhelloitsme I understand what you're getting at but I'm not saying she asked for it. That particular response from him according to OP was disgusting. I'm just saying I wouldn't of messaged in the first place if I wasn't interested, just think OP would of been better off reporting it straight away being so concerned. Engaging with people you're wary of is a bad idea really and nothing good will come from it. Also I'd be concerned adding fuel to the fire by stating 'You know you could be sacked for that?' He could of turned really nasty!!

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beautyisthefaceisee · 07/07/2022 08:48

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 21:57

@beautyisthefaceisee You really do look for offence, don't you? Like you're actually searching for it. You're very, very angry! Wow

No.

I'm not bothered, I just think you're inept
Its PP who were angry at you.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 07/07/2022 08:52

StrawberryCheesecake08 · 06/07/2022 23:47

She messaged first. If I wasn't interested in someone (which she clearly wasn't) I would of just left it and not said anything to him. It's asking for trouble and I wouldn't of made angry comments saying he could lose his job. If I was going to complain I would of done it anonymously and ignored him 🙈
It doesn't add up for me. I think someone is playing martyr and everyone is buying into it. A facebook add is no big deal. OP got the ball rolling by sending a message first. This could of been avoided.

Martyr?😂😂😂 Its not that deep. I've been through far worse in my life, and this was days ago now. it was light hearted

I messaged him mainly because I actually am quite a strong woman (not a martyr) Nd I'm actually quite a good egg and I wanted him to think about the fact someone else might report him and hed lose his job. I'm nice like that.

You are off your head with me getting the ball rolling. The man lookd me up on social media having obtained my details through his job and added me, and I got the ball rolling?

You're a very strange poster indeed.

Re your martyr comment, if I wanted to message him and meet up with him, I'd have done it. I dont need mumsnets permission 😂😂

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 07/07/2022 12:06

And yet you started the thread asking what to do because he was nice looking and that….

You posted in relationships too.

🎭 🤷🏻‍♀️

‘off your head’ and ‘a very strange poster ’ is unnecessary - they have a differing opinion - that is all.

If I’m honest, I wouldn’t have responded. If he subsequently contacts someone else who wants to report it? Up to them.

Why give him a warning if you really found it creepy? Just report it or ignore it. I’m baffled by his second response given that you made your feelings clear.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 07/07/2022 15:25

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 07/07/2022 12:06

And yet you started the thread asking what to do because he was nice looking and that….

You posted in relationships too.

🎭 🤷🏻‍♀️

‘off your head’ and ‘a very strange poster ’ is unnecessary - they have a differing opinion - that is all.

If I’m honest, I wouldn’t have responded. If he subsequently contacts someone else who wants to report it? Up to them.

Why give him a warning if you really found it creepy? Just report it or ignore it. I’m baffled by his second response given that you made your feelings clear.

The relationships thread was a different incident. I'm not sure why you are bringing one thread into another, MN take a dim view of that (and that one wasnt light hearted)

I assume you're calling me a drama queen?are you usually as misogynistic about a woman posting on a female site for advice regarding being a female?

If you're referring to tbe poster who called me autistic, I wasnt tbe only one to respond in that manner.

Re your viewpoint, I'm not remotely interested in what you would have done since your goal seems to be attacking me (and this is now days ago and its done).

I didnt 'give him a warning' ffs, not that I answer to you. I was 5050 until I messagss him to gauge his intentions.

Fuck me. What an Ott response to a light hearted thread that was done and dusted days ago.

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 07/07/2022 19:12

At the top of the thread it says relationships. Not chat. Not aibu. Or anything else. Unless I have a glitch.

I’m not bringing any other thread in at all - just commenting on this one. Where did I bring in another thread?

It isn’t me that is inventing an agenda or an attack.

Drama queen? No. It is merely an opinion which I believe you asked for. And it does sound a bit of a drama.

As for MNHQ dim views? Personal attacks usually get that.

Amd your response is OTT - not mine.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 07/07/2022 19:25

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 07/07/2022 19:12

At the top of the thread it says relationships. Not chat. Not aibu. Or anything else. Unless I have a glitch.

I’m not bringing any other thread in at all - just commenting on this one. Where did I bring in another thread?

It isn’t me that is inventing an agenda or an attack.

Drama queen? No. It is merely an opinion which I believe you asked for. And it does sound a bit of a drama.

As for MNHQ dim views? Personal attacks usually get that.

Amd your response is OTT - not mine.

.

I'm pretty sure I posted it in chat - but I'm not the MN elite. I didn't deliberately post it in relationships so i thought you meant another one.

It was a ridiculous, light hearted thread so yes it was a drama.

I was one of NUMEROUS posters to be hard on a poster who made references to autism and "me starting the ball rolling".

Btw, me under an old username got on like a house on fire in tv threads back when - I'm sure its you - so can we call this a (silly) draw and move on?

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 07/07/2022 19:48

Just so you can see, this thread is showing in the ‘relationships’ subject matter for me.

That is what I was referring to. Nothing else. And I wasn’t misogynistic or attacking a fellow woman. If you take time to read what I wrote you will see that is not the case.

Enjoy your cheese.

Deliveroo man - please vote, MN!
SheldonesqueTheBstard · 07/07/2022 19:50

quits it is. 🧀

Redannie118 · 07/07/2022 20:04

I work for a company VERY similar to Deliveroo. As numerous PP and the OP have stated this is against the terms of his employment. I speak to people like this driver every day to terminate their employment. Without exception they have had previous warnings for inappropiate behaviour. Ive seen screenshots of sexually explicit messages, dick pics, upskirting, you name it. When you pull them its never their fault, even when its a criminal offence. Trust me, if you had seen what I see on a daily basis, you wouldnt be thinking this was a "lighthearted " matter.