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Deliveroo man - please vote, MN!

128 replies

beautyisthefaceisee · 04/07/2022 18:23

Hi folks

Earlier today I received a friends request from the gentleman who delivered my stuff earlier (My facebook is in a fake name, but he's obviously looked me up).

My immediate thought was "fuck no, that's creepy"

However - he was attractive, he was nice, and I thought that after our interaction.

Do I accept?
What do I do?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 19:23

girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 07:39

The wink face was to tell you that's his excuse if you're not happy with him adding you. You were unnecessarily stern considering at the start of the post you weren't upset or offended. In fact, you were flattered.

I wouldn't risk ordering from Morrisons again...

Pardon?

I certainly wasn't flattered.

I was not stern! for fuck sake. If he did it to someone else and they reported him, HE WOULD HAVE LOST HIS JOB. I just told him that! In what world is that "stern"?!

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Heroicallyl0st · 05/07/2022 19:24

It’s a weird situation isn’t it…

but does raise (add to) a question in my mind about how on earth to meet people in person these days.

My last encounter was through a random stranger adding me on Instagram as he thought I was someone else and we just got chatting. Not something I’d normally do tho!

girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 20:17

I'm sorry - so you told him he could lose his job (and the way you wrote it was stern, it wasn't friendly or jovial or warm) and he apologised for adding you then decided to follow up with a question about whether you'd like more children?

Annoyedwithmyself · 06/07/2022 10:06

I think what distinguishes it from someone thinking 'well perhaps it's not ideal to approach customers in this way but OP seemed lovely and it's hard to meet people so I'll take the plunge and ask her out' is that he didn't actually ask her out. He just sent a friend request then some crap about it being a mistake when asked, then some weird stuff about having a baby with him (did that literally come after the convo you shared here?).

That would all mark it out as being odd, gauche, or not transparent or something that he does all the time.

Someone taking a chance and being open about their intentions not so much.

Shitscared123 · 06/07/2022 18:27

I think you a troll. This is one of the weirdest posts I’ve read.

EmmaH2022 · 06/07/2022 18:32

Wait...I thought you were making a joke with the "children" comment OP?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 18:49

No, emma.

@Shitscared123 , I'm not that inventive . I work through mu summer holidays with small children- I dont get home and think oh excellent il make up a post on mumsnet. What would I even achieve? Ps troll hunting is banned pet

I'm so determined to prove the nay sayers wrong that I would post a screenshot but I'm worried about ending up in the bloodu daily mail!

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 18:49

girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 20:17

I'm sorry - so you told him he could lose his job (and the way you wrote it was stern, it wasn't friendly or jovial or warm) and he apologised for adding you then decided to follow up with a question about whether you'd like more children?

Was yes not enough the last time you asked thi?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 18:51

girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 20:17

I'm sorry - so you told him he could lose his job (and the way you wrote it was stern, it wasn't friendly or jovial or warm) and he apologised for adding you then decided to follow up with a question about whether you'd like more children?

PS - I hope you're being deliberately obtuse.

I don't think he was interested in my 5 year plan.

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girlmom21 · 06/07/2022 19:02

@beautyisthefaceisee I'm not being obtuse it just seems really strange that he'd apologise and seem sincere then get weird afterwards so I wanted to check the order things had happened in.

On that basis I would report him because he's clearly a creep and not just trying it on.

Stopsnowing · 06/07/2022 19:03

Delivery drivers who have done similar have been fired.

disneylover367 · 06/07/2022 19:11

I can't believe people are calling him a predator. Poor guy, he facebooked you, he didn't corner you and repeatedly ask for your number.

wellhelloitsme · 06/07/2022 19:16

disneylover367 · 06/07/2022 19:11

I can't believe people are calling him a predator. Poor guy, he facebooked you, he didn't corner you and repeatedly ask for your number.

Poor guy?

Maybe read OP's updates...

Welshrarebit75 · 06/07/2022 19:17

Nope, nope, nope.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 06/07/2022 19:55

girlmom21 · 06/07/2022 19:02

@beautyisthefaceisee I'm not being obtuse it just seems really strange that he'd apologise and seem sincere then get weird afterwards so I wanted to check the order things had happened in.

On that basis I would report him because he's clearly a creep and not just trying it on.

Youte telling me. I had assumed the sorry was a respectful shot his shot and tried but then nope, back he came!

MN is a strange place. Men are lurking on every corner to murder you but I'm a dick for not reporting him (which I could have) and pointing out je could lose his job....but the poor soul only wanted to make more children 😭😭

The funniest thing was someone saying it's the weirdest thing theyve read on here. Think il take that badge 🥰

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StrawberryCheesecake08 · 06/07/2022 20:12

If I was in this position I either would of replied in a friendly manner (highly doubtful but if I really fancied them? Never say never) OR completely ignored them!! You've gone down the middle and probably bruised his ego after him searching for you and taking a shot. The whole sexual comment about making a baby will be to get a reaction. But yeah that comment is creepy regardless. Let it go OP- Shit happens. You can just block or whatever and move on. Also take it as a compliment as he obviously fancied you. Glass half full and all that 👌

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:39

@beautyisthefaceisee Are you Autistic op? Genuine question. He was trying to be sweet (albeit breaching his contract of employment) and simply added you. He then tried to flirt and you barked at him like an old school headmistress.

Regardless, it seems that romance is indeed, dead.

ldontWanna · 06/07/2022 20:42

It's so frightening how shitty and inappropriate behaviour is still considered being flirty and romantic.Confused

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:42

Ps no offence intended by the Autism question. My child has it and frequently misunderstands social cues. That's why I asked

MargotMoon · 06/07/2022 20:58

Passionfruit gin, eggs, sprite, cheese and bread

That's a pretty sexy order, tbf. I don't blame him for being interested OP! 😁

StrawberryCheesecake08 · 06/07/2022 20:59

MargotMoon · 06/07/2022 20:58

Passionfruit gin, eggs, sprite, cheese and bread

That's a pretty sexy order, tbf. I don't blame him for being interested OP! 😁

🤣🤣🤣 cracked me up this

OldFan · 06/07/2022 21:08

Reporting him would have lost him his job and he would have continued to be a predator. I can only hope the reminder might help him actually think about it - if he doesn't, I've not lost anything, and if he does, I've gained.

Reporting this sleazeball would be the right thing to do. If he's sacked he might remain a predator, but will have less opportunity to act in the way he has as he wouldn't have the phone numbers he gets through his job. And you'dve gained the knowledge that you might've saved some women from being creeped on etc.

OldFan · 06/07/2022 21:10

Are you Autistic op? Genuine question. He was trying to be sweet (albeit breaching his contract of employment) and simply added you. He then tried to flirt and you barked at him like an old school headmistress.

@ThePumpkinPatch A lot of women would've found his actions creepy, as you can see from this thread. Nothing autistic about it. He's the one that acted inappropriately.

haggan · 06/07/2022 21:23

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:39

@beautyisthefaceisee Are you Autistic op? Genuine question. He was trying to be sweet (albeit breaching his contract of employment) and simply added you. He then tried to flirt and you barked at him like an old school headmistress.

Regardless, it seems that romance is indeed, dead.

Fuck me. I have come to expect the 'autism?' on many threads but this isn't one of them.

It's a shame ignorance didn't die out with the romance Sad

haggan · 06/07/2022 21:24

ThePumpkinPatch · 06/07/2022 20:42

Ps no offence intended by the Autism question. My child has it and frequently misunderstands social cues. That's why I asked

It's offensive, rude and ignorant. Even with the 'no offence' added.