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Deliveroo man - please vote, MN!

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beautyisthefaceisee · 04/07/2022 18:23

Hi folks

Earlier today I received a friends request from the gentleman who delivered my stuff earlier (My facebook is in a fake name, but he's obviously looked me up).

My immediate thought was "fuck no, that's creepy"

However - he was attractive, he was nice, and I thought that after our interaction.

Do I accept?
What do I do?

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 04/07/2022 21:05

Who ordered tweezers and an industrial sized bottle of Fairy Liquid?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 04/07/2022 21:38

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 04/07/2022 21:05

Who ordered tweezers and an industrial sized bottle of Fairy Liquid?

My old friend from the dancing on ice days ( i think - I've changed username since then).

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Sunshinefutures · 04/07/2022 23:07

Contrary to everyone else.. I know of a few people who ket their husbands this way lol. As in, a guy who supplied our paper at work liked the look of a colleague and looked her up on social media and added her. They went for a drink and are now married lol. It could of course have back fired and he’d have lost his job for using her details from the email she used to order paper (admin). However unless you use online dating, how else do you meet people these days?!

I know OP thinks he’s a predator lol, but it could have gone the other way and on the date he could have admitted he was nervous to take the risk but glad he’d done it and show he wasn’t a creep.

likewise my other friend had her postman ask her out by posting his number and details. Again, could have lost his job if she’d reported but now they live together and are inseparable. He’d had a crush on her for like 2 years so one day took the risk. She was oblivious before the note. On the other hand if she took offence that would also have been seen as creepy.

I mean he could have been a creep or he could actually have seen OP, thought wow and took a risk for the chance of a date.

I think it’s kind of sad that meeting people organically is seen as weird these days, but I do also understand reservations due to the horror stories I guess.

CPL593H · 04/07/2022 23:29

What a very interesting day you have had, OP.

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 05/07/2022 00:01

Annoyedwithmyself · 04/07/2022 18:33

Has he messaged you or just added? I wouldn't really like being searched by someone doing their job tbh. He should really have asked you at the time

What does "added" on Facebook mean? I understand that nobody can be "added", they have to send a friend request and it has to be accepted.

What does this mean?

yourestandingonmyneck · 05/07/2022 07:13

@ImJustMadAboutSaffron that's what she means. He sent her a friend request.

She hasn't accepted it, she sent him a message asking for clarification.

girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 07:39

The wink face was to tell you that's his excuse if you're not happy with him adding you. You were unnecessarily stern considering at the start of the post you weren't upset or offended. In fact, you were flattered.

I wouldn't risk ordering from Morrisons again...

Sniffypete · 05/07/2022 07:57

Duck no that's weird

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 05/07/2022 08:07

Wouldn't bother me, I've had a few people request me who have seen me in the pub though never from a delivery.

Jenhen89 · 05/07/2022 08:20

Yeah, you were way over the top and quite harsh to him. Don’t get how you thought it would have been a “modern romcom” after you making that very blunt statement telling him not to do that again. I actually think that could have been romantic. I don’t think it’s particularly creepy. We live in the modern world now, unfortunately it’s very easy to look people up.

SmallPrawnEnergy · 05/07/2022 08:29

If this is acceptable seems to hinge on his attractiveness. What a bizarre world we live in.

”it’s ok because my friends husband did this and look how well it turned out for them” erm no, he was also a creep, your friends just have low self esteem / standards.

Luredbyapomegranate · 05/07/2022 09:15

Ilosthim · 04/07/2022 20:01

Christ! I bet the poor guy is cringing.

Is it me or is everyone really harsh?? He may well have been a creep, yes, but he may also have been a normal guy who fancied OP and shot his shot!

Exactly! What is the world coming to???

SailingNotSurfing · 05/07/2022 10:34

Report him to the company he works for and stop engaging with him. How many other female customers do you think he behaves like this with? That's right, nearly all of them. He's a creep.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 16:14

Jenhen89 · 05/07/2022 08:20

Yeah, you were way over the top and quite harsh to him. Don’t get how you thought it would have been a “modern romcom” after you making that very blunt statement telling him not to do that again. I actually think that could have been romantic. I don’t think it’s particularly creepy. We live in the modern world now, unfortunately it’s very easy to look people up.

He replied asking if I have children and if I'd like to make some more. I blocked him.

Would you like to take it back?

Ps, I wasnr over the top. He could have lost his job. Someone else might have reported him.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 16:15

SmallPrawnEnergy · 05/07/2022 08:29

If this is acceptable seems to hinge on his attractiveness. What a bizarre world we live in.

”it’s ok because my friends husband did this and look how well it turned out for them” erm no, he was also a creep, your friends just have low self esteem / standards.

Eh, that's uncalled for

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 16:17

I'm worried with tbe clear 5050 divide that I'm going to end up in the daily mail 😭

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girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 16:51

He replied asking if I have children and if I'd like to make some more. I blocked him.

Was this before or after he apologised?

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 05/07/2022 16:58

After you told him he could be sacked just for the friend request? Hmmm

SomePosters · 05/07/2022 16:59

Being flattered by being ‘mildly’ stalked has been a feature of love stories forever, it’s not surprising so many people think it’s romantic.

toxic monogamy at its finest.

still at least the creep showed his true colours quickly and before anyone was pregnant

wellhelloitsme · 05/07/2022 17:00

If he said that to you re more kids (boak) then I would personally report him to deliveroo tbh.

DolphinsAreEvil · 05/07/2022 17:07

Tbh you sound like such a dragon ☺️

Jenhen89 · 05/07/2022 17:34

beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 16:14

He replied asking if I have children and if I'd like to make some more. I blocked him.

Would you like to take it back?

Ps, I wasnr over the top. He could have lost his job. Someone else might have reported him.

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Why should I take it back when this is literally the first time you have mentioned him saying that in the entire thread?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 19:17

Jenhen89 · 05/07/2022 17:34

Why should I take it back when this is literally the first time you have mentioned him saying that in the entire thread?

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He hadn't said it when you wrote it.

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 19:18

girlmom21 · 05/07/2022 16:51

He replied asking if I have children and if I'd like to make some more. I blocked him.

Was this before or after he apologised?

After.

@EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall I literally wrote out what happened above. Is there a reason you are implying I have nothing better to do with my week than make it up?

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beautyisthefaceisee · 05/07/2022 19:19

DolphinsAreEvil · 05/07/2022 17:07

Tbh you sound like such a dragon ☺️

Half thinks I'm a dragon, half think I should have done more! classic MN

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