How would you respond to this?

[Tangerine58]

Would you be annoyed if a single woman 19 years your DH's junior bought him a novelty jockstrap to wear over his shorts at an exercise class?

How old are they both and how well do they know each other?

55 and 36. It's a weekly exercise class which he has been going to for years. Likewise for her.

Yes I would. Completely inappropriate.

Think she's after your hubby 😕

Inappropriate & crossing a line...You are right to be annoyed at that one.

I would think she was insane to be honest!

It'd give me the ick and I'd be questioning her motives

What's made it worse is that the jockstrap was left sitting in the mess of paperwork on his desk at work but I hadn't noticed. Our adult DD was with me and we were waiting in his office and she noticed it and picked it up. Gave me the look 'what the hell?!'. I had to shrug my shoulders at her. He came back in, I asked him jokingly what on earth was that and that's when he said she'd bought it for him.

Is it part of a joke conversation they had?

What sort of joke conversation involves my husband's crotch?

Is he hiding something in plain sight?

I would laugh. But that’s the sort of jokes me and my friends have. Someone bought me a coconut bra as a joke. Do you know her at all? That changes it.

I should add I'm just as mad at him as I am at her on this one.

I don't know her at all.

Well you could just ask him...

I asked him of course and it was skirted over saying it was a bit of fun. The previous year she had bought him novelty socks.

So ask him what the joke is.
Novelty socks are harmless.

There isn't any joke. Apparently it was a bit of fun dressing up.
I had no problem with the socks the year before.

Per usual, you have a husband problem. He never should have accepted that as a gift, and he should have told her off for being so grossly inappropriate. I think your husband likes the attention.

Agree 100%.
It's maddening because I had to minimise it in front of DD but I know her, I could see it on her face she was worried and thought it inappropriate, and by me minimising she probably worries I'm being weak. I had to make a split second decision about how to deal with it in front of her though.

Totally inappropriate. Can you join the class too ? I would be concerned tbh.

Your husband obviously doesn't have any boundaries.

He also didn't tell you when he received it.

I would be really annoyed with him.

If it is a platonic friendship I wouldn't see it as a problem

If she gave it to him alone, that's very different to getting it as a jokey present in front of everyone at a Christmas work do.

Everyone has their own boundaries, but in my world, giving a married man such an inappropriate gift is just wrong. I don't care how long you've been friends for.