*don'"t tell mummy"

[Idontknowwhattothink]

I have a horrible gnawing pain in my stomach.

From what I can deduce from my nearly 4 year old little girl her dad left the house when she was in her room and then made her promise not to tell me.

She was massively stressed that she let it slip and wouldn't give me anymore details. The only time she goes to her room is at nighttime. I'm wondering if he went somewhere when I was out and she woke up screaming. She was describing how she was calling and calling but he was gone out.

That could be explained away as a mistake (eg. He simply didn't hear her) but the promise to not tell mum is making me hyperventilate. She was quite panicked about that part.

I feel there is a pattern of him manipulating and controlling people and now that pattern is emerging with her. I feel I need to get her away from him.

Thoughts?

Good luck @Idontknowwhattothink Seems you have taken advice and have a plan in place. Hope you and your daughter stay safe x

Hi op. I would put a nanny cam in her room. You need to know what he’s saying

Apologies - I misunderstood your post

I am strongly considering this. Does anyone have any tips re what, how, where and what are the legal implications?

I've ordered an inexpensive nannycam.

Does it pick up sound? Obviously don't let him know about it or see it.

No advice just here to add my support.

Are you and your family doing ok @Idontknowwhattothink ?

Hi, thanks for checking in. Yes we're fine for the moment. The authorities are involved and helping.